How to bully proof your life?

[superstarheartbreaker]

I have been bullied throughout life which causes my issues which in turn makes me vulnerable to bullying...agggrrrrr!
Apart from assertiveness training, how do people bully proof themselves. I was bullied in school and in every teaching job I have had by colleagues and students. Maybe I'm extra sensitive to it?

Watching this thread. I'd like to know too as I also appear to be a bully magnet.

People who have never been bullied like to dismiss it and tell people they should just get over it. Unfortunately it forms and shapes your personality.

I do recall an incident from when I was about 13 and some horrible pugnacious little girl (who actually quite a bit taller than me, pretty much everyone was) was trying to engage me in a fight after school by taunting me to hit her so she'd have a good reason to fight me after school (if you're still following the logic- I'd lost track by then), and I go so utterly pissed off with her and bored with repeating that I would not be fighting her after school because I had a bus to catch, that eventually I did slap her. Bizarrely she was not as I expected waiting for me after school with a big stick or a posse, nor was she ever unpleasant to me ever again. In fact she actively tried to be my friend. From that incident I concluded that some people are just insufferable windup merchants with limited intelligence, who feel the need to bully people until they find their limits. I don't understand this concept at all. Maybe that's why I am repeatedly the target of such people.

Maybe anybody who bullies just needs to be reminded to fuck off once in a while (in an appropriate manner). Some people just seem to work that way. It's bizarre- you'd expect grown-ups to be grown up, but there you go- some people are just fuckwits.

There are a lot of scummy people out there who like to bully it gives them power. The only way is to ignore them or tell them to f...off! Stand up to them and they lose that power. Just pretend your not bothered...even if you are. Bullies can smell fear...stay strong!

I have a mate who is an expert at put downs. They normally come out if nowhere and only sunk in after they are gone. Its hard to get space from her and us complex.