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Any anxious obsessives out there ?

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AryaOfHouseSnark · 29/05/2014 20:36

I think I might be a bit, I don't know, a bit overly anxious and obsessive.

This have come to ahead recently, I went for a night out and can't remember bits, I am filling my head with all sorts of things I might have said and done. None of them that logical, but I feel really anxious about it. I have spoken to a friend who said I was fine, spoken to loads of people afterwards who haven't said I was out of line, but my body doesn't seem to react to logical thinking.

I have always been like this, over thinking everything, obsessing about it and working it over in my mind till my heart is pounding and my head is knotted. I over think everything that most people wouldn't give a second thought.

What can I do ? I know I could see a GP, what would they say ?
Is anyone else like this ?

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SirChenjin · 01/06/2014 20:03

I can also really recommend Emotional Freedom Technique (or tapping as it's also known) - my Community Psych Nurse used this with me and it definitely stopped the obsessive and anxious thoughts. Youtube have got some good videos, or have a look on the website Smile

AryaOfHouseSnark · 01/06/2014 20:34

That looks great Sir, thanks. Will try it out.

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SirChenjin · 01/06/2014 21:19

Hope it works for you Smile

AryaOfHouseSnark · 02/06/2014 08:06

Thanks just had a go, yes it seems to help. Will keep on going with it.

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AryaOfHouseSnark · 02/06/2014 08:14

Actually wow, I feel quite calm and ...fine. I hid in the loo and watched it on my phone while the dts ate breakfast, was feeling a bit niggly and anxious and feel good now.

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SirChenjin · 02/06/2014 13:18

Sometimes hiding in the loo is the only way, isn't it? Grin I'm glad it was of help, and hope you feel better soon.

AryaOfHouseSnark · 04/06/2014 10:28

Ahhhh, I am really nervous. Got a gp appointment today, just about to go now. I did have one for the 9th but I feel too crap to wait.

Keep on having loads of anxious spiraling thoughts, when I step away from it it all seems so silly but I really can't keep on top of it.

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 04/06/2014 10:53

Tell the GP exactly what you have said on this thread. Good luck Thanks

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 04/06/2014 14:03

Hope your appt went ok OP? x

AryaOfHouseSnark · 04/06/2014 14:03

Thanks, it went really well actually, he was really nice and sympathetic. He want to do some tests to see if it is my thyroid as anxiety is a common symptom of that and go from there. He says it won't take long to get the results and he would rather make sure he knows what he is treating.
Tests are tomorrow morning so should get the results early next week.
Feel a lot better for talking about it with him.

Thanks to everyone for your kind worlds and support. It really means a lot thank you.

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 04/06/2014 14:04

Cross postGrin

Glad it went well, good that he's so thorough x

twentyten · 04/06/2014 15:47

Well done!! First step- glad he was helpfulThanks

AryaOfHouseSnark · 04/06/2014 20:17

Thanks, it feels good to take that first step. I am headed in the right direction.

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 06/06/2014 20:23

How are you feeling snark?Smile

AryaOfHouseSnark · 06/06/2014 20:42

Ok thanks, thank you for asking.

Better than I was, but still anxious. I have good and bad times in the day. More good than bad though and I am able to talk myself down. Onwards and upwards. Smile
I am still obsessing about this bloody stupid night out, I wish I hadn't gone and it's silly, such a silly thing to be worried about. I have spoken to so many people who have said I was great fun, I didn't make a fool of myself or upset anyone, I didn't argue with anyone. Etc etc but some how I find myself worrying about what I might have done, what repercussions might be, what people are really saying about me.

I have always worried about upsetting people though, always. I have always worried about coming across as an arse or people thinking bad of me.

When I get anxious and obsess about something, it's usually about that.

I think I need to sort that out tbh, if it's sort outable Grin

How are you doing Dame ?
Hove you started therapy yet ?

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 06/06/2014 20:53

Oh God I know what you mean,I went out recently with a group of really good friends plus one woman that I didn't know at all-I obsessed about EVERYTHING from what I was going to wear to what I'd talk about with this new person. It was ridiculous as she was utterly lovely but I am still thinking about itHmm

Therapy starts ThursdaySmile

Glad you're able to talk yourself down. Did I mention rescue remedy? It really helps me when I get a bit 'hyperventilaty.'I don't care if it's a placeboWink

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 06/06/2014 20:56

I only have two friends that I can be completely relaxed around tbh, everyone else I find hard work even though I love themConfused

AryaOfHouseSnark · 06/06/2014 21:05

Yes up you did, I meant to get some today and forgot. I will get some though, lots of people have said it helps. I think I heard that the emergency services carry it to help with shock.

I find people hard work too, I am ok when I am there but get nervous and anxious about meeting up with people, even people I am really close to.
Good luck for Thursday, I hope it goes well for you.

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AryaOfHouseSnark · 10/06/2014 18:00

I got most of the test results back, so far so normal. Thyroid is normal, so it looks like it's anxiety causing my anxiety rather than anything else.
I am starting to feel better, despite waking up in full blown panic mode this morning. I am getting better at not letting my thoughts spiral and feel like I can function in normal life when I am feeling anxious.

I have got some rescue remedy and kalms, I have also got nytol to help me sleep, I think I go to sleep being scared of waking up anxious which isn't helping. So hope they will help me sleep through.
I have to wait for the rest of the results to come through and see where we go from there.

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AryaOfHouseSnark · 10/06/2014 18:02

Oh sorry I forgot, best of luck for Thursday Dame I hope you start to feel better soon.

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AryaOfHouseSnark · 10/06/2014 19:14

Actually what I am most anxious about now is the anxiety, I am not so bad with the spiraling thoughts, but I still get waves of the physical feeling of it and it scares me, I don't like it and dread it coming.

A bit like when your little and you know your gong to be sick and try to fight it.

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 10/06/2014 19:21

When I was at my most anxious I had a Walkman (long time ago) with audio book cassettes do if I woke up I just plugged myself in straight away and listened to a story. It really helped. It was my sister's idea, Mel Gibson reading My Cousin Rachel was fab in the middle of an anxious nightWink

I'm getting a bit twitchy about Thursday in case I cry, which I probably willHmm

Davesview · 11/06/2014 11:56

Yes I am have suffered with anxiety of some form or other all my life, think it is in the genes, diazepam helps best although effect is temporary & addiction is easy (been taking it @ least 25 years though) probably tried every a/d going have Effexor now also have depression ( I think I was born depressed - my first words @ birth were probably put me back) so I have ocd ...........only positive is I am not as aggressive as I used to be like always falling out with ppl Oh & I have never been able to make friends........that inner fear that I hide well probably stems from childhood & having BAD TEMPERED scary father.............to summarise Im a total nut job but if anyone can bear to chat with me Id really appreciate it ;-)

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 12/06/2014 13:48

Hello DaveSmile

Well,I had my appt this morning and bawled through the entire hourHmm she was lovely though and very helpful and although I was tearful I now feel greatly relieved I have a 'plan' in place. Seeing her again next week. If anyone's dithering about going, just go, if you REALLY don't like it, you don't have to go again.

AryaOfHouseSnark · 12/06/2014 19:43

Hi Dave

Dame I am so glad things are looking up. How did you access it ? Through your GP ?

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