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My son I am devastated.

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Imsuchamess · 29/05/2014 20:04

My 8yo son has a psychiatrist for behaviour issues. I have scizoaffective disorder my uncle on my dad side has bipolar 1 my uncle on my mams side is scizophrenic. He broke down today crying saying the reason he is naughty is because he hears voices that tell him to be naughty.

Either he is telling the truth in which case this is all my fault.

Or he has picked up on the fact that I hear voices and it is damaging him psychologically.

Omg.

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Imsuchamess · 29/05/2014 20:09

Either way it is all my fault.

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itsmethechubbyfunster · 29/05/2014 20:13

Woah.

This is not your fault. I don't have any real advice but I couldn't leave your post unanswered. Blaming yourself won't help, you are not responsible for this, it is not your fault, it is not something you can control.
Has he talked about these voices with his psychotherapist or is this the first you are aware of it?

Imsuchamess · 29/05/2014 20:16

This is the first time I've been made aware of it he has a psychiatrist for behaviour issues and because he can't socialise. I have heard him talking to himself on occasion.

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sideshowbob2 · 29/05/2014 20:23

at least someone is helping him, my brother at 26 was sectioned by the police and spent 2 months in the hospital with some very scary people, he was later diagnosed with bipolar, i hope all goes well for you and your son

Millie2013 · 29/05/2014 20:41

None of this is your fault, I'll bet you are doing your absolute best, under very difficult circumstances, so please, please don't blame yourself.
Can you speak to your son's psychiatrist (perhaps with your son) and tell him what your son has said? That way, it can be explored and your son can get whatever help he needs
Do you have any support yourself right now? I think it's important that you get to talk through your own fears about this. It's not something you can carry around, on your own

Imsuchamess · 29/05/2014 21:02

I haven't questioned him about it tbh I didn't know what to say I just hugged him and told him I love him. He has a behaviour worker coming round to take him out Sunday I'll ask his advice.

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ecuse · 29/05/2014 21:13

I can totally understand why you're devastated but it is what it is. Some people pass genetic conditions on to their kids. If he does turn out to have a similar condition, what you can do that is proactive and positive is be the best role model for dealing openly and positively with mental health issues that you can. Model to him the behaviour of acknowledging the issue, seeking help without shame when you need it, sticking to meds etc. In lots of ways he's lucky because he's going to have a mum who understands him, can spot 'red flags' early, has an idea of the type of help he might need and be a FANTASTIC role model for living a positive successful life with MH conditions. I wish you loads of luck but, whatever you do, don't blame yourself.

Imsuchamess · 29/05/2014 21:17

Thank you ecuse.

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