Anger Management

[Aspiringhuman]

I feel like I've so much rage inside me that I'm going to explode. I don't get enough time to calm down from being pissed off before DH or someone else (more often than not DH) pisses me off again. It's like a cumulative effect.

DH has just asked me how I can be remotely stressed about anything. Annoying in itself but even after I explained everything he still doesn't get it, called me an idiot for remotely worrying about it. He hasn't come up with one practical suggestion to feel less stressed except me working harder and has now gone for another nap.

I've lost control of work and the house and I'm do far behind so he goes to sleep. I'm so tired as he keeps me up half the night snoring, I have to factor at least an hour into getting to appointments to get him out of bed. I've started having fantasies about smashing his head with the frying pan.

WTF is wrong with me.

Could you start with sorting your sleep - if you are not able to sleep it makes things so much worse. How can you get a good 6-8 hours solid sleep a night?

I did not understand what you wrote about an hour to appointments due to getting him out of bed? Is he disabled and unable to get out of bed and needs you to do that?

He seems incapable of waking up. It regularly takes at least an hour to get him out of bed.

The sleep it's a combination of staying up to get things done, getting up early to get places, Dh snoring and me waking up in a panic about what needs doing.

No job to go to?

No he doesn't but I need to know the kids are safe before I leave. I work and study. Today it was his doctors appointment which I'm mad about because he's only injured because he was acting like a that. Then I feel guilty for that.

Why are you doing housework whilst he is sitting on his arse? Shape up or ship out time.

Nothing is wrong with you. You're just living with a complete arse who would try the patience of a saint.

I was going to suggest mindfulness, but I think sorting your problems (ie unhelpful DP) would be far more effective.

Mindfulness is good though

I can't wake him again. I need to leave for work in half an hour . He's been asleep 3 hrs, mumbled can you not take her with you, rolled over and went back to sleep. He was furious at me this morning for dragging him out of bed for his hospital appointment.

Is there a medical reason for him needing to sleep so much?

Nothing apparent, he claims he hardly ever sleeps so he refused to go to the doctor. Had blood count done for something else and that was fine.

Wow. This doesn't sound like a partner. More a waste of space....

What does he contribute....? Or I'm sad but the answer might be three little letters......?!

He's there when I'm out at work so I don't need to pay for child care. If you mean sex tbh I hate it.

What do you mean you need to know the kids are "safe" before you leave? If my kids are with my DH then they are safe.

Well he can't watch them if he's asleep. I know all parents go to bed at night but they were up and about.

I'm going to ask what I think most people are trying to figure out: why are you still together? This doesn't sound to me like an anger management issue, but a relationship issue.