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Anyone else with pnd argue loads with their dh when the pnd is bad?

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MummyTheGregor · 22/05/2014 08:17

Or am I just a massive bitch using pnd as an excuse?
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My fourth or 5th bout of depression so feel like I should know the drill so to speak

DH is desperately trying to be helpful and I feel like I am clearly explaining what will help me but not being heard. ....

Example this morning is that several days ago I explained that the most important thing to me on a morning is getting me and the 2 boys dressed and downstairs before dh goes to work.... if that happens
I also clearly said that getting the boys mmilks while upstairs is not a priority, I want to give them milk and breakfast downstairs

This morning he said 'right do you want me to get the boys milk?

I get cross because I feel like I've not been heard yet again. .. he responds with 'I was just asking what you want me to do to help' - WHY THE FUCK DOESN'T HE ASK THE QUESTION HE WANTS THE FUCKING ANSWER TO?????? -I didn't shout that but felt like it. ...

Then everything I've asked him for help with he's pushed back and suggested that he do something else.... ffs! If he wants to help then why can't he just do what I have said will help me and not what he thinks he should be doing????!!!!

We've been arguing (in a gritted teeth in front of the kids manner) all morning. .. arguments of this fashion are a regular occurrence when I'm not well. ....

OP posts:
MummyTheGregor · 22/05/2014 08:19

*missed a bit... meant to say that being dresed and getting downstairs before dh goes just seems to be helpful to me, keeps me on track for the day. ....

OP posts:
partialderivative · 24/05/2014 20:12

What you describe doesn't sound very healthy.

It also sounds as if you are waking for your dp to make a mistake so that you can jump on him.

partialderivative · 24/05/2014 20:13

not 'waking' but waiting.

BouncyBabe98 · 25/05/2014 22:00

I don't think your a bitch. Men can be bloody insensitive T@&£S sometimes. I don't think they think the same way as us, PND or no PND.

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