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please help me with my dh

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Koothrapanties · 21/05/2014 22:57

I will have to come back to this in the morning because I need to go to bed, but I could really do with some help.

I think dh has rapid cycling bipolar disorder. He goes from seriously depressed, can't do anything, very low mood, tearful, anxious, doesn't want to go anywhere, sleeps all the time, angry at himself, hopeless... To manic, going out all the time, racing thoughts, impulsive, irritable, not sleeping or eating, big plans which he never sees through.. etc etc.

A couple of nights ago he went out and threw eggs in two blokes faces then came back and laughed his head off. He kept acting out what he had done and got more and more hyped up. He was stalking around the park looking for them, his reasoning being that they were being noisy and I was worried they would wake dd.

He has decided to buy a car that we can't afford.

He goes out nearly every night because he can't stop and relax.

Tonight he had a panic attack because his thoughts were racing so much. He thought he was having a heart attack because his chest hurt so much.

He chased a man with a baseball bat a few nights ago because he was tresspassing at the fishing lake where dh is a bailiff. He didn't care what would happen if he hurt him.

He talks so fast at the minute and jumps from thought to thought, I can't keep up.

Over the years he has gone from one extreme to the other, rarely 'normal'. When manic he has the biggest ideas, he is going to be a champion bodybuilder, a famous inline skater, a dj, artist, tattooist... The list goes on. They all start off as an obsession, then fizzle to nothing when he comes back down to earth.

The problem is, he has no insight whatsoever. He refuses to accept he has a mental health problem. When I point out what has happened lately, he laughs or changes the subject. If the conversation gets to a point where he is realising that I am not joking and there is a problem he gets defensive and stops talking. He is so far in denial it is unreal even though he can't deny what I am saying.

What the hell do I do? I am banging my head against a brick wall. He is getting worse and worse and I don't know what is going to happen. He will admit that he isn't very stable, but his only solution is to try harder to be stable. I don't think that is going to work.

Any advice is hugely appreciated. Sorry if my post isn't very clear.

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Koothrapanties · 21/05/2014 23:07

Just to add, right now he is out walking in the rain for no reason. He seems to think this is perfectly normal?! He walks miles and miles at the minute, I think he is trying to get away from it all but he can't.

I just wish that he could see that if he got some help that he would feel better, but he wont hear of it. :(

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GeordieMama · 21/05/2014 23:14

It's very difficult to help someone when they don't want it, especially during mania.
I'd contact Mind (mental health charity) for advice. I'd also speak to your GP about it, not only to help your DH but also to make sure you're supported as it's a lot of stress on you.

Koothrapanties · 22/05/2014 08:00

We have different gps, would it still be worth asdking them for advice? He would be devastated if I went behind his back though.

This morning he is in a right muddle. He is trying to get a loan for this stupid car, but his brain is going too fast for him to work it all out. He's very snappy with me today. :(

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GeordieMama · 22/05/2014 10:49

I'd still chat to your GP, if nothing else they should be able to get you some support.
Have you tried calling the Mind infoline?
Bipolar UK might be able to help too.

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