Suicidal alcoholic mum

[ACOA]

Hi everyone,

Just looking for a bit of support and advice really as I don't know where else to turn.

My mum is an alcoholic. Following a bereavement in September, she has been out of control drinking vodka 24/7 which is making her very ill. I have helped her detox on a number of occasions, some of which with the help of a&e. Unfortunately she has went back drinking each time.

She is suicidal and repeatedly says she wants to die etc. Have discussed this with GP etc who have said nothing can be done unless she quits drinking, which I understand but she could kill herself at any time really.

For me, I'm just completely lost. I really don't know what else I can do for her. She says she's sorry but has too much hurt inside her to keep going. Have have her the number for a local counselling helpline.

Please help.

TIA

((Hugs)) for you.
Although you didn't cause and can't cure or control your mums illness there are some things you can do for yourself and understanding. So long as you don't feel you might change the outcome and know that it's not in your power to save her, they're worth doing.
-don't enable her. So obviously don't buy her vodka, but also don't cover for her either with friends family or services.
-attend al-anon to get an understanding of how this is her problem and how you can protect yourself.
-you could offer to accompany her to an AA meeting. Although if it is to work she needs to want it herself, she might be inspired by meeting people who were more broken than her and are now sober and happy.
Good luck and look after yourself.

Thanks so much helpys, will def check out al-anon, it's got to the stage where I don't think she's ever gonna change now and I think I've done all I can :( it's just heartbreaking. But don't want it to take over my life too :(

Try contacting addaction, they have been very helpful for around my son's drinking.

Sorry meant to say for me around my son's drinking. Keep talking to people, don't get isolated, it can pull you into a dark world as I'm sure you know.