Could I have some help with anger please

[LaurieFairyCake]

I'm deliberately posting this in mental health so someone doesn't come along and be sniffy.

There is someone am I furious with and there is no resolution possible and I'm not allowed to talk to them about it. They are very aggressive and would be violent if they got the chance.

I can't post more because of confidentiality but they were abusive to someone I know and have spent the last ten years justifying this abuse at various meetings.

My struggle this week is that I can't focus on what I would usually do to let go of anger or process it as every time it comes to mind I get tears of rage. I feel real loathing.

I'm sort of waiting for it to pass but it's not this time

I think what I'm struggling with is being able to stay in the day as I know I've got quite a few years of this to go, actually right now it feels like I will never be free.

Is this person the sort that is never going to have true happiness because they are so much of a cunt?

I had a situation like this last year and I had to stop the bitterness and anger from swallowing me up. The person in my situation is such an almighty cunt that he will never ever have what I have. I have a family who love me, all he has is enemies and 'friends' only stick around until they see him for what he is.

I looked around at my life and realised what I have and how he could only ruin it all if I let him.

Possibly

They have a lot of people round them that are just like them who also love to have a go at me

They can't ruin my life in reality, it's my feelings of anger that are preventing me enjoying my life this week

It's really hard to cope with something unchangeable and to be stuck with your reaction to it

I really do understand, I felt just like that. Honestly though how happy can someone who can treat others so badly really be? One day it will all fall apart and this person will probably die a lonely, unhappy old loser. Or they will die ssurrounded by people just as nasty as them. You can't live a truly happy life if you are like that.

Just look at what you have, how much better your life is because you aren't so nasty and empty on the inside that you can treat others so badly.

If you can't change the situation, your only option is to change your viewpoint. Otherwise it will just eat you up.