I know, its a bloody nightmare! you just want to take the good days and run with them!
you sound very much like I did on the Venlefaxine, the standard release tablets I was on at the start were hell for weeks and when I did eventually mange to stop taking them the reducing slowely took months as I got all the side effects from the start again, and had the wierd electric shock head thing for about 6 months after that! not what you need when are supposed to be 'better'.
To clarify are you on tablets or capsules?
this is the info from the BNF (British Medical Formulary) on the effexor XL - it really does read as though they should be taken once a day - could you manage going into your pharmacy and speaking 1:1 with a pharmacist? most now have a private consultaion room.
Again, pls dont change anything without checking first, but this is the info from the BNF
Efexor® XL (Pfizer) Prescription only medicine
Capsules, m/r, venlafaxine (as hydrochloride) 75 mg (peach), net price 28-cap pack = £22.08; 150 mg (orange), 28-cap pack = £36.81. Label: 3, 21, 25, counselling, driving
Dose depression, adult over 18 years, 75 mg once daily, increased if necessary at intervals of at least 2 weeks; max. 375 mg once daily; child under 18 years not recommended (see Depressive Illness in Children and Adolescents)
Note
Faster dose titration may be necessary in some patients
Generalised anxiety disorder, adult over 18 years, 75 mg once daily, increased if necessary at intervals of at least 2 weeks; max. 225 mg once daily
Social anxiety disorder, adult over 18 years, recommended dose 75 mg once daily (no evidence of greater efficacy at higher doses); dose may be increased at intervals of at least 2 weeks; max. 225 mg once daily