I told Dh how bad things are and he has emotionally abandoned me

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That's it really. I don't know what to do now, I am really poorly with depression, I need practical help as barely functioning , I am trying hard not to leave and take kids to hotel or family.
I feel completely abandoned.
He has his own problems just now, very unhappy with job. Long standing mild depression on and off.

It was so hard to tell him how I feel and this is what has come of it.
I feel even worse than ever.
Fuck him.

His main worry is I'm not earning while off sick. That's all that matters to him.

I'm really sorry that he isn't being supportive. Have you been to the doctor to ask for some help? Is there anyone - friend, family member - who you can confide in and who can help you?

Thanks for replying
He's been supportive in the past, but no longer. Tbh I can see why, it can't be easy.
I asked him to collect prescription for me as I live miles from town and he is too busy.
I said I could do some work from home if he could take over extra etc washing etc. He's done nothing extra.
I'm being referred to psychiatrist, GP good. Got a few good friends, one has just been bereaved though [sad
Other friends good, particularly those who have been through similar, but caring for kids is just too much atm. Need Dh help.

I mean practical help, caring for Kids and house and food etc.

That's not unreasonable, even if you weren't feeling depressed, it would not be unreasonable to expect him to do his share of domestic stuff.

I don't know what to suggest. Has he said why he is not prepared to be supportive any longer?

I think it's that he can't rather than won't as he is very unhappy with job and very low himself.
I am going to look into us staying with my brother for a few days or weeks, but hard to find energy.

I feel that he thinks because his job mkes him miserable that I should be at work being miserable. The difference is I love my job, but I am ill! He doesn't get it at all.

I am sure that he doesn't wish unhappiness on you. If he does, then that is a big problem.

Perhaps some time apart as well as outside help for you both is what is going to help. I hope it does.

Thank you Hec