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I am messing it all up again. :-(

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MovingOnUpduffed · 12/04/2014 14:51

I have been muddling along for the last year after a breakdown and frankly terrifying onset of ptsd following leaving my abusive husband. I've been on and off a few threads around here but my concentration is shit at the moment and I can't reply to everyone and get a bit lost.

Anyway- I am in my final year of my degree and returned following a year off to do the final 10 weeks of my placement in time to graduate in the summer. I HAVE to do it- I can't have more time off and can't delay graduation any further. However, I am struggling so much. I get in such an anxious state before each shift and often end up crying and hyperventilating. Today I am meant to be in for the evening but I just can't do it, I am so flashbacky and anxious and such a mess. Even when I do make it in I am in a state of constant anxiety, avoid things and am frankly pretty rubbish. I have missed a fair few shifts now and know I need to get a grip, but can't. I feel like I am fucking it all up and can't stop myself. My supervisor is sympathetic, but will have no choice but to fail me if I'm not there!

I know I'm not really well enough right now, I managed the first few weeks but seem to have hit a wall so close to the end. Does anyone have any advice on how I can pull myself together? I just need to hold it together for another 4 weeks but it seems impossible right now.

Oh, and my dp (new dp, was previously a friend who I have known for years, not an abusive twat) is getting pretty frustrated with me as we really need me to get this degree. Today he has spent an hour trying to calm me down and persuade me to go in for my shift, which only made me feel more awful and I ended up shouting at him to leave me alone. Which he has so now I am feeling doubly useless.

This is such a self indulgent rant I know, I just wanted someone who understands to hand hold for a while. I feel wretched.

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SnowyMouse · 12/04/2014 15:11

(((( MovingOnUpduffed )))) Is it a health course/placement? I only ask because you need to be fit to practice/go on placement (I don't want to put much on here, but I have experience of that). Do you have a sympathetic tutor at uni you could talk with? Maybe take it an hour at a time?

MovingOnUpduffed · 12/04/2014 15:20

Yes, it's a health course. In terms of fitness to practice I am signed off as fine- they don't seem very bothered to be honest and the university are sympathetic but useless and have an attitude of 'suspend or get on with it'. I just need to find a way to muddle through the next few weeks.

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SnowyMouse · 12/04/2014 16:04

Oh dear Sad Could you access university counselling for support? I'm here for a hand hold anyway, I remember how isolating placements could be.

deepest · 12/04/2014 16:15

You have done really really well to gte thru 60% of the pacement already. What helped you for thos weeks? Were you having FBs then? Could you take it one day at a time - this might be less overwhelming. Tell yourself you will go in for the nxt shift and will make your decision after that....just crawl thru it day by day. Is the stress of not finishing this year paralysing/overwhelming you more than than the FBs or triggering the FBs. I have no idea abiut PTSD or FB - but I do suffer depression and wake most days not wanting to get out of bed and go to work....I know my depression is especially acute in the mornings - so I just say to myself - I will feel shit until lunchtime and then it lifts. Are the FBs transient?

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