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Does this sound to you like depression?

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Needsmorecake · 11/04/2014 08:01

I had a bad day yesterday, quite out of the blue, happens maybe once/ twice a year. I woke up and was crying quite a lot. Had felt a bit not settled for a two evenings and then it all came out yesterday.

Im a lone parent, i have been since my baby was 20 weeks, shes now 8.5. Shes with my ex husband this week, on holiday, when he pays me the minimal amount of csa then takes most of that off me in joint loan replayments ( which no solicitor can sort as its a bank issue and he refuses to speak to the bank). It feels like its rubbing my nose in it a bit.

Im damn poor, ive been damn poor for years and im £30 short on my rent this month. I have no idea where i can get £30 from.

Ive been messed about a bit by men/ dating at the beginning of the week and already this year ive had two month long things which i have had to end due to them being dickheads.

Im just a bit tired/ fed up/ feeling that its all very unfair.

Most of the time im fine, im bimble along, i do stuff with DD, the house is clean, im good at work, i feel happy, despite all the above crap. But this week, i just dont feel great about it. I feel annoyed, angry, pissed off and just crap about what has become my lot. I think its probably quite normal to feel like that, in what are, rather shit circumstances.... but my friend kept going on and on about depression. ( i say friend, its a lady at work who i never actually see at work, i think ive seen her maybe a handful of times in the last year, so she doenst really ' know' me)

So, i thought id post, for a better. maybe more informed view.

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MajesticWhine · 11/04/2014 08:10

I think it is understandable to be really upset and fed up with he way things are for you at the moment. And this is fluctuating with sometimes feeling ok. So no I don't think it is depression. But do look after yourself because it could develop into depression. The best way to ward off depression is to keep activity levels up.
You have shown a lot of strength to stay happy and keep on top of things most of the time. So give yourself credit for that, and think of some low-cost things you can do for yourself for a bit of self-care. What are you going to do for yourself today? You deserve it.

saintsalive · 11/04/2014 08:10

No I dont think it is depression, but it is possible to be sliding towards it.

Glad you were able to cry. And good to talk about it all. Have you someone in rl to talk about it all too as well?

Needsmorecake · 11/04/2014 08:14

I do, i feel very lucky that lots of friends helped me yesterday.

Im up and ready for work and then i have a plan to get the house in order for DD coming home. I did have some social things, but ive cancelled them in favour of getting the house sorted, i dont want DD to come back into a mess, i want it to be lovely for her when shes back. I did go out socially last night though and had a nice time.

Ive got a ton of ' free' plans for next week too, days out, that kind of thing, with some gardening/ baking/ seeing friends too.

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Needsmorecake · 11/04/2014 08:21

also - i mostly feel ok. Its not that i mostly feel bad, and only sometimes feel good.
Its the other way round. 90% of the time i feel ok, happy. I know ive got shit and life is quite hard, but i enjoy it.

Just, this week, well, I havent. Ive stayed in, got fed up/ angry and then the money thing tipped me over the edge i think. And i just cried and wailed and moaned ALL day. I still went out socially, and had a nice time. This morning i felt quite flat, but no where near as bad as yesterday.

But now im up and ready, and have made a plan, i feel ok and a bit excited about the next two days and what im going to get done. And then really excited about my DD coming home and the week we are going to have ( as ive got a week off to spend with her)

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