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Autism

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Autismslave · 24/01/2014 07:57

Autismslave Fri 24-Jan-14 07:52:10
Hi I am really struggling at the moment with my son and husband . My son was diagnosed with autism last year after years of fighting for help and he can be very challenging although I love him dearly and will always fight his corner it is an exhausting endless round of meetings and discussions about what he can't do or cope with my husband I am slowly realising is on the spectrum too. He is wonderful with our children but it so cold to me sometimes he says he love me but is unable to express is other than saying the words. He is so selfish for example I always make the cups of tea and on the rate occasion he makes ones he never does one for me ever. Stupid I know hit when it's me that's up from 2am everyday Bwcause our boy struggles to sleep it can really upset me then he says I am being stupid. He struggles with anxiety and uses this as an excuse to avoid situations he is uncomfortable ie the school run. He has totally isolated all his family and most if his friends as they won't put up with his apparent arrogance I think this is unintentional he actually doesn't know what he is doing wrong do I stay in a marriage where I am ok for the most part but feel there is so much more life has to offer I am so lonely and feel very isolated just to write this down male me feel better .

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GoodnessKnows · 24/01/2014 08:06

I don't have any answers for you but am listening and can empathise. My son is on the autistic spectrum. It's not yet been diagnosed. It's such hard work. I understand your struggles with feeling supported by / communicating with your DH.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 24/01/2014 08:11

Being cold and unable to express emotions doesn't man he is on spectrum.

But I sympathise with you..it is all so hard.

Autismslave · 24/01/2014 08:17

Iam aware that that alone doesn't mean he is on the spectrum there are other things too

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 24/01/2014 08:20

Would he agree to be assessed? Then maybe he could get some support or strategies, as it doesn't sound fun for him either?.

Autismslave · 24/01/2014 08:28

To be honest I dare not suggest to him what I thinking. It will be ok just been a difficult few weeks with lots of changes am being silly really all will be ok once we settled into new routine and I am back at work x

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 24/01/2014 08:29

Iy has possibly occurred to him too. .often does when a child is undergoing the DX process.

GoodnessKnows · 24/01/2014 08:48

These people can possibly help (I called yesterday and they have offered to support us as a family).
www.youngminds.org.uk/for_parents

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