Emetophobia & New Year disaster

[Irish1978]

Hi everyone I am just new to the site today. I don't have any children yet but hoping this site can help me.

In short my New Year has started off disastrously. I have suffered from emetophobia for over 20 years. I think it is starting to destroy my relationship. I can't socialise as much as I used to cos I don't drink much and it's starting to affect my relationship. Massive argument last night about going to a party and the evening was ruined. I now am being ignored and not sure if I still have a relationship...why does this anxiety ridden phobia ruin my life??

Hi Irish

Fellow emetophobic here.

I'm sorry you feel bad today and your fears ruined last night.

Worrying about drinks and sickness at parties is a huge issue for me and one I hate too.

Does your partner ever understand about it and just hot frustrated last night or is he always like this?

Hope the silence has improved since you posted.

Are you taking any meds for your anxiety ? I ask because I've recently started anti D's (sertraline) and I would say my anxiety about vomit related incidents is a fraction less. I had to deal with my second child puking in the car and I was stressed but not manic.

Take care.

Hi Spidery

Thanks for replying. Generally speaking he is supportive but social events tend to be the crux of our arguments. I try my best and I am not always so bad but sometimes I just want to stay at home.

I am reading a self help book that explains a lot. I also want to have kids but don't want to be pregnant for fear of morning sickness. It is crippling my relationship which needs to change.

The doc has given me fluoxetine but I haven't started taking it yet as I do not want to become dependent on drugs. But I may not have a choice.

My partner is still angry so I hope if I leave him to it he will eventually come round.

Thanks for listening xx

Do consider the drugs. I felt like you for a variety of reasons and I'd say I probably put it off for years. I am 2 wks in and the difference is noticeable.

You mightn't be sick with pregnancy. I wasn't sick once when pregnant with both my kids only had a bit of nausea.