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Why is New Years Eve such a bad day for people with MH issues?

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VulvaVoom · 31/12/2013 10:56

Genuine question.

I can feel a huge dip in my mood today and part of me wants to hide away but the other part wants to get out and try to 'enjoy' endure it for the sake of DH and DD.

Feel shit and like my ADs aren't working today :( Anyone else?

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koTinkaBell · 31/12/2013 11:01

New year signifies new begining. if you're feeling hopeless, it's hard to see a future or see any possibility of change for the better. also, the whole Christmas and New year hype of family can really bring it home to you if you're isolated. I used to work for the Samaritans. very busy time of year

koTinkaBell · 31/12/2013 11:04

it's really good you're working up to trying to go out. it'll give you a boost, I'm sure

koTinkaBell · 31/12/2013 11:04

it's really good you're working up to trying to go out. it'll give you a boost, I'm sure

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VulvaVoom · 31/12/2013 11:13

Thanks Ko, I'm definitely going to force myself to, I bet I'll feel better. Just have to get up the energy to shower, how sad is that. I feel guilty because my DD is the light of my life, yet I still have depression :(

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clangermum · 31/12/2013 11:14

Maybe it's because it feels like next year will just be more of the same?

Genuine comment, not looking for sympathy. Just that why is a change of date going to help?

Plus the idea we all should be deliriously happy tonight.

Having said that, it will be fine because we'll treat it like any other night. For me that's the key. And maybe something nice from M&S!

I admire anyone who has ever worked for the Samaritans.

clangermum · 31/12/2013 11:16

Having said that, if you can go out, you'll probably have a great time!

clangermum · 31/12/2013 11:17

cross posted - was just meandering off on my own thoughts

koTinkaBell · 31/12/2013 11:26

even if you feel like you're "going through the motions" a change of scene can help.

I remember feeling like I was faking it a lot when I had pnd. it's bloody hard.

clangermum · 31/12/2013 11:31

Plus if your DH is into celebrating, that's another plus Vulva

Messupmum · 31/12/2013 13:52

I don't know why either, I always get very down on NYE. I struggle most days anyway, but I feel really low today. Lying here watching a film with dd, but I've started crying and trying to hide it. She seems a bit down too, and I'd be horrified if she's picking up on my depression and anxiety. Hope she's ok, we've been out with friends to a kids NYE party so she's had some fun.

We can all support each other tonight maybe? Unless you're out of course.

TheOrchardKeeper · 31/12/2013 14:15

I'm tired a lot due to depression (pretty much under control but I take mirtazipine to help me sleep and it makes me a little drowsy in the day) so the idea of staying up too late tonight and getting even more tired (when I can't even drink) is a horrid one. I'm staying in though, and am very happy about it

koTinkaBell · 31/12/2013 16:52

staying in too, oddly I just fancy a telly night!

tonightsthekindofnight · 31/12/2013 21:16

You are not alone in this OP.....

I am in with my kids while oh celebrates at his friend's. Feeling very teary and down. I feel sad that 2013 has been so hard and that 2014 offers more of the same. Trying to let suicidal thoughts just wash over me but its difficult. It is the endlessness of mh conditions that is so tough to take.

MimsyBorogroves · 31/12/2013 21:20

I always feel very down on NYE even if I'm fine otherwise.

Some of it, for me, is the expectation of this wonderful night - but I just watch people going about it and wondering why. To me, it's like saying "happy new Wednesday" or some such.

I'd be just as happy - if not happier - to go to bed early and miss the whole bloody charade, but DH is very into celebrating it, even though we are only at home and he will be watching a film. Had the in laws excitedly wishing everyone a "happy new year" - I just don't get it, but I'm sure everyone is that I never say it.

TirAnna · 01/01/2014 02:16

Me too Mimsy - it's always hyped up as a great night when you should be out getting trashed and looking forward to a bright future, but I've never had much to do on NYE, especially this year when I know lots of my uni friends are having a great time without me and I'm stuck at home on my own. Plus ironically it's made worse by the fact that I've been doing a lot better mental health-wise lately, so when I think about the coming year I feel like things are more likely to go downhill again than get better if that makes sense.

clangermum · 01/01/2014 11:56

Hope everyone's ok this morning

Islenka · 01/01/2014 12:10

I think there's a lot of celebration of the year before and a lot of hopefulness of the year ahead. But 2013 was horrible and 2014 looks to be much the same, so what's the point? At least that is kind of what I think I'm thinking, but I'm not sure.

clangermum · 01/01/2014 12:17

I think I'm going to focus on having got shot of 2013!

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VulvaVoom · 01/01/2014 19:12

I went out and it was fine (bit of a dull night really TBH) but I do feel marginally better.

No work till Monday, so that helps and DD really makes me laugh at the moment (14 months old and doing new stuff every day)

Hope everyone else is OK?

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clangermum · 01/01/2014 20:12

Good to hear

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