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What would you do if someone you knew with Alzheimer's was being bullied by their carer?

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DaffodilDoris · 23/12/2013 00:42

The answer seems obvious except that the sufferer is my father in law and the carer is my mother in law. She has terrorised my husband and his siblings for their whole lives and he is the only one left who is still in contact with them. She tells FIL off for forgetting things in a really spiteful way, talks about him being "work" and not having "a day off from him" when he is standing right next to her and reminds him constantly of all the unintentional things he has said which have hurt her feelings. She also puts her face close to his and shouts as "he can't hear her otherwise" and does things like takes him out in the car to the shops and then locks him in it whilst she buys things. This can't be right surely? What can I do? We have tried to talk to her reasonably but she just shouts back and threatens to cut us out of his life. She has already disinherited my sisters in law and my husband is terrified that she will stop him from seeing his dad if he confronts her. Help and practical advice needed!

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kazza446 · 23/12/2013 00:49

Report them both to soocial services. She needs supporting as a carer. He needs protecting. Pm me for more info. Will reply tomorrow x

Golddigger · 23/12/2013 16:06

She may be doing other things as well.

I am not an expert in all of this.

You could tell his gp.

Have you decided to take kazza's advice?

JesuslovesmethisIknow · 24/12/2013 22:53

I would tell social work. It is called putting in an adult support and protection report. it can be done anonymously. THEY are duty bound to investigate.

You should do it.

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