anger

[couldsleepforahundredyears]

Not sure what I want to say here really. Maybe just to start a conversation about anger

I feel that my anger is getting out of control. I get angry every day, at stupid things and fly into rages very often. I feel like I've completely lost my sense of humour and things I would've found funny in the past now make me furious. I shout and scream at my partner and feel hatred towards him, even though I know deep down I love him dearly.

I know I have underlying issues from the past but I don't know how to deal with them. I've started reading anger management for dummies, but I'm so exhausted all the time I can't concentrate on the words.

How often do you feel angry? Does anyone have any tips, advice, stories they want to share?

Have you spoke to your gp? It could be a hormone imbalance. If you have suddenly started feeling this way.

I find I get angry if I get stressed especially if I feel no one is helping me. And I become snappy and feel cross. I sometimes have to take time out go for a walk alone or a coffee and calm down.

Sorry not to be much help but didn't want to leave your post unanswered.

I have noticed your username. Does your anger get less when you have had more sleep? It would also help you to work your way through the book.

Would you consider some form of counselling? While self help books are great, it might help to explore some of the underlying stuff

Thanks all for replying. All helpful comments and food for thought.

just woke up from horrible dream. Myself and my mum killed a small girl in a hotel room and left her there for years. I was the replacement girl for my mum. Years later we returned to the room where the corpse was lying there decomposed and stinking. I could actually smell death in my dream. I woke up and now feel terrified. Also feel a bit like I must have major issues to have dreamed something so horrendous.

I haven't spoken to gp but will consider. I have issues with men in general, my father was a massive twat who was in and out of my life, he had a violent temper. I was brought up in the main by my mum who is a sweet and good woman who would do anything for me. However I was brought up with her mantra "all men are bastards"

I've always been firey especially with opposite sex and yes any lack of sleep effects my mood terribly. But lately I'm feeling it more intensely. It's starting to really effect my relationship. He can't speak without me exploding. He is a sweet man who never loses his cool and doesn't like arguing, but that lately is driving me nuts.

We have been together 15 years and have a 1 year old boy. My boy is the light of y life and is a constant reminder that I can feel intense joy and happiness. So I know I'm capable of being happy, Just need to get past this anger I'm clinging onto.

Anyway, best try and get back to sleep or there's bound to be trouble tomorrow! We're going to the in laws for Christmas, gulp.

Hello everyonethe past few weeks have been really good in regards to my anger, I took a lot of what you all said on board and have found rereading the thread very helpful. I've been able to control my anger better and have felt proud of myselfThis morning was a bloody nightmare though. My 15 month old woke me up at 4, he let out a cry but went back to sleep. I sleep in his room as my OH snores and I'm such a light sleeper it's impossible to sleep in the same room. But at 5 this morning I was tossing and turning and woke my son up at 5. I settled him and had to go in to my oh bed. Obviously didn't sleep with his snoring and by 7am when son woke I was in a silent rage. Cue huge argument, with me screaming at him, in front of my son. I just couldn't control myself. I stormed out of the room to try and calm down and heard a thump then wailing, my boy fell off the bed. I've been inconsolable since. My boy is fine, after the initial shock he calmed down and has been climbing around and laughing as per usual. But I feel awful, what a disgusting thing to do, argue and shout in front of an innocent toddler and then leave him in danger. My oh was there by the bed with my son so I didn't leave him on his own but I am to blame none the less as oh was getting ready for work. I just feel so down and such a failure.

Sorry for length of last post and no paragraphs! If you managed to read it all, I thank you!