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Post Natal Anxiety?

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giddywithglee · 18/12/2013 21:25

Since the birth of my second child I feel anxious all the time. Not about everything, and not necessarily what you'd expect (I tend to be fairly relaxed about their health, even though they both have colds constantly at the moment), but I get fixated on something and then build it up to the point where I can't stop thinking about it and feel unbelievably anxious - for example a few weeks ago I noticed a few hairline cracks in the plaster in one of my walls. I'm now convinced the house is subsiding, have spent hours googling subsidence, cracks etc, examine the exterior walls of the house every time I leave or enter the house... you get the idea. My rational side knows my house isn't falling down, but if I go to friend's houses I find myself looking to see if they too have cracks so I can reassure myself. This'll work for a while and I'll feel ok about that concern while I concentrate on another (I usually have several concerns on the go at once that take it in turns to be my main issue), but without a doubt I'll return to it and have to start the process of reassuring myself all over again. The concerns can be anything (my health - I'm sure something terrible is going to happen to me soon and I'll leave my children mother-less), the house falling down, whether something I've said to a friend has been taken out of context and she now hates me....

Anyway, pre-DS2 I wasn't like this. I did have occasional obsessive thoughts but I was generally very good at managing them. Now it all feels completely beyond my control and it's starting to affect my day-to-day life. My husband is so fed up with me constantly looking for reassurance 'see that crack - was it there yesterday?', I lie awake for hours worrying,, I feel tearful a lot of the time.

I was at the Doctors with one of my children (legitimate illness concerns!) and I saw a poster about post-natal anxiety and I wondered if this could possibly be what is causing this? Has anyone any experience of it?

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batterylow · 18/12/2013 22:41

I had this with my first child, had depression with the second (still do) but with the first I was like this for a while, to the point where it stopped me doing lots of things, i would be up till all hoursnresearching whatever my worrywas I think it is definitely worth a gp trip, its horrible feeling so worried all the time.

batterylow · 18/12/2013 22:46

Mine was child health related mainly but also anything that would cause her harm. Could imagine me doing that with subsiding too. Also as part of my recent depression this time round I had a huge panic attack about shelves falling off walls, I think anxiety and depression can be closely related, also torture myself with thoughts of having offended people etc. for me, paranoia was a big part of PND both times round. I am on anti depressents now and they help a lot, I am not saying you need them but you could talk about your options with your gp. Cbt is meant to be good for anxiety too.

giddywithglee · 19/12/2013 08:14

Thanks, I'll make a GP appointment. I was a bit worried about looking silly but now I know it's not just me I feel oddly reassured!

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batterylow · 19/12/2013 21:35

They won't think you are being silly, good luck anxiety is horrible so its good to get some help with it.

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