Dm and I had a small (in my opinion) dispute about 2 months ago. Basically, I mentioned that she had sent a text asking to change a meetup location, with inadequate notice (10 mins before the agreed time), and the meetup failed.
I've tried to politely discuss this over text (she won't communicate any other way), but her texts have become progressively more indignant and venomous - as though she's turned on me. It's totally out of character as she's normally an utterly rational and empathetic person.
I don't know what to do next. She refuses to speak to me, either on the phone or face to face, and texting is just not adequate imo to talk about this properly!
I am worried about her mental state. I am regularly preoccupied with our dispute at some point each day, but I have my DC, DP, work etc to distract me. DM has nothing and nobody and I know that she will be utterly consumed by this. She will be seeing noone, talking to noone, no interaction, never smiling or laughing, just brooding over this situation all her waking hours. Which obviously can't be healthy if she's been doing it for 2 months straight. Does anyone have any suggestions? This is the first time in my life we've had problems. Yesterday I texted "How are you, Mum?" - the reply: "You should surmise that for yourself". I quickly replied "Ok; what can I do?" and I got an outraged reply: "I don't believe this. I'm supposed to tell you what should have realised weeks ago? ...." and more to that effect. I feel that she thinks I'm some kind of mindreader, with these "things I should have realised" - I've got no idea what they ARE!
Sorry to ramble. I would link to the back story but actually the main bits of it are on someone else's thread and I think it would just be confusing ... 