Dealing with a attention seeking teenager

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She self harms and makes suicide threats. But the pychiatrrist has assured us many times that she is just doing it for attention. How do we deal with this?

So it is only the after school bit that is different?
Who looks after her till 5pm or perhaps you mum is not back till later than that.
And then your mum is in most evenings with her?

I suppose it is all right with you if I keep asking this questions?

your poor sister.

I look after her it's never later than 5 as she works odd hours it's often earlier.

I am beginning to feel myself coming round in full circle here.

I would indeed say it is unusual for a child of 12 to be this bothered and upset that she loses the hour and a half directly after school that she normally has with your mum. Particularly as she is then spending it with you instead.

Has she ever mentioned fears about anything else to you and your mum. At the back of my mind I have the possible touching of her by her dad.
Does she express fears about your house. Does she feel safe in it? Do you share it with anyone else at all?

If this behaviour only began 4 weeks ago and she has already in that time seen a psychiatrist then it seems she is getting some prompt attention form the NHS which is good. If she has only been under a psychiatrist for less than a month she will not have been seen much so they would not have been able to diagnose a PD in such a short time scale, plus they do not diagnose under 18's as much of what young teens go through is not a MH issue as such and puberty and hormones can affect diagnosis.

I am sure she will be getting treatment under CAMHS, possibly social care involvement as well due to accusations made etc and that her school is aware which will help too. They can help deal with why the sudden change in behaviour and hopefully out the support in place she needs.

I share my house with my dc and dh but he is at work when she is there. Yes she feels safe she often optionally comes up we live just up the road you see.

Her and your dad used to be around. Now he is not. Did he go out of her life around a month ago?

Has you sister actually spoken about not wanting her mum to go back to work?

I'm so worried about my 13 yrs age grandson who's badly gone off the rails. Since he's been diagnosed with diabetic 1 3yrs ago he's a completely different boy. Almost unrecognizable. And only family he's got are he's Mum and me and hes 10 yrs age sister. We need help as police and social services know all of what's going on but arnt helping at all. We are at end of our tether and can't cope with him any more.

He's bumming new school after being expelled from he's 1st sensor school. Even if I drive 7 miles to pick him up every morning to take him if he stays in school. He won't go home after and plays with boys on estate who have all been banned from playing with each other and around that area. And not come home all night with no insulin or food until we find him sometimes 2 days later. Police won't help or social services. What's happening in this world. He's a risk to himself and doesn't care and won't talk about anything. He's also been arrested. Stealing and knives 2 times. Waiting to go to court soon. Think it's all attention sealing?