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When no one's ever said 'it will all be alright'...

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Urv · 21/11/2013 20:49

How can I learn to say it to myself? My mum was single and suffered with depression and anxiety. I do too, periodically. If I feel under pressure or overwhelmed with responsibilty I just panic. However much I 'know' in my head I can cope, I freak out and cannot cope due to the symptoms of anxiety.

Right now I'm teetering on the edge. I phoned my mum to tell her and she did what she always does: panicked. I could feel the fear, anxiety and stress in her voice, almost asking me if it will all be alright. Argh! No wonder I feel like this.

Dh is usually quite good. He's simple, straight forward ''it'll be fine, what you worried about?" type, though not right now as he's struggling too.

How can I help myself? How can I learn to tell myself 'it WILL be alright, you CAN cope and you WON'T let anyone down'? I can think it and know it but my body doesn't believe it. The symptoms are all there - insomnia, shaking, nausea, memory loss, irritability, tearful. Meds? Again? Please, any advice or words of wisdom.

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Urv · 21/11/2013 20:56

I'm sorry, that was long. Can anyone help me? I'm shit scared right now.

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TheCrumpetQueen · 21/11/2013 20:58

From your symptoms I really think you should talk to your Gp. You shouldn't be suffering. Have you had counselling? Cbt did wonders for my panic attacks and anxiety.

TheCrumpetQueen · 21/11/2013 20:59

Also, do you have anyone else you can talk to, friends or family members apart from your mum? She sounds like she makes it worse!
My mother is the same and I rarely call her when I'm feeling upset or down.

sleepyhead · 21/11/2013 21:00

I've got a friend with similar experiences to you who has found Mindfullness meditation really helpful.

I agree, see your GP though.

Urv · 21/11/2013 21:00

Thanks, I should shouldn't I? I sort of know that. I definitely know that. I've had citalopram before, I guess I need it again. I'd love to try cbt, never been offered it. I take on too much and when I don't get enough sleep I just panic.

Thank you for replying.

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NineteenForever · 21/11/2013 21:02

Didn't want to read and run. The mental health section of the forum will no doubt offer some advice. Copy your post there or ask MN to move it over? Hang in there.

Urv · 21/11/2013 21:06

I just did the stress test on the mindfulness link and scored 34/40, with 40 the highest possible stress! That's not great is it. I am utterly held back in life by this. I have quit jobs as I've done so well I'm suddenly out of my depth. I'm competent and intelligent yet I have done badly as I shy away from responsibilty.

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TheCrumpetQueen · 21/11/2013 21:30

Ask your Gp to refer you for cbt, it's very good at combatting what you're experiencing and making it easier to control your thoughts and behaviours.

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