new kind of anxiety. somebody please explai

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Hiya.

Ive been going through a pretty rough time lately. Although it is settling somewhat now.

So i did expect, on some levels, for my anxiety levels to be on the increase.

However, they are there. But different to how they usually are.

Usually my worries would be focuswd on me, what people though, self doubt etc.
Which are there, dont get me wrong. But i can manage and handle them.

The new one is quite strong, and scary as i dont know how to handle it.
I dont know if it is ocd related or not.

For example... i was waiting in my dads car, for him coming out of the doctors. As he cane back, he stood at the car waiting for another car to pass to open rhe door.
My brain went into another drive, and i imagined my dad being smashed into by a car and being flung up the road.
I want a coffee table - but i am too scared to buy one incase one of my dc fall and hurt themselves on it.

I worry a lot more when we are close to roads. Im worrying about safety a little bit irrationally, i think.
Even though you can never be too safe. I think i do need to relax a bit.

Why though - why has this came about?
Do i just apply the same tactics to this, as i did/do with my 'normal' anxiety?

I have been, and i know it takes time to set in. I am baring with it, but if there is another way id be happy to hear it.

Thanks in advance

I have had that problem as far back as I can remember. Im always worried when I get in a car with even experienced drivers that someyhing will happen to us and my baby will be badly hurt or worse. Or if ppl drive to see us I constantly worry until they arrive because im frightened they'll get in a bad accident and ill lose them.

I often imagine when im in the car and find tears in my eyes needing to be reigned in.

Im not ocd as far as I know. No1s told me. But I have anxiety issues that have got better. I used to be physically ill from it. This derived from bad experiences.

I find myself angry at my DH and find he enhances my anxiety in this specific instances as he doesnt have the knack of reassurance and doesnt value anything I say as a whole. Atm I am v negative with my marriage and its got to me where I dont sleep well. Im worried itll take me back to where I was so I think I probably need to see someone.

Its not something close ones can understand and its something that needs exploring with someone who isnt in the picture and can help you turn how u see things around and cope with these terrifying thoughts. I think it just a gr8 thing if you can leave the house and carry on with life at least physically. I think the mental side needs some attention and alot of demons to face.

Once I learn how to get rid of these thoughts ill let you know. I know how scary it is and want to not think this way also.

Oh i am sorry to hear you are having a tough time lately!
If you are anything like me, then a difficult time will increase your anxiety.
When things run smoothly, i sometimes wonder whay i was so worried about.

I know how hard it is trying to explain to others. Because there are no physical signs, people think you are fine. Theu dont realise how exhausting these irrational thoughts can be.
Especiallg when you know they are irrational, but it seems impossible to bring your mind fully round to the idea that they are. Always second guessing your own opinion.

I did find reading up on positive mental attitude works wonders for me. The law of attraction also.
I was doing great with my anxiety when i started reading that, and listening tk mediation apps af bedtime.
They seemed to calm me right down throughout the day!

I am going to start listenig to them again i think.
Only stopped through major stress.

Maybe you could have a look into the few things i mentioned. They might be of help to you.

As for the reassurance side - i have that.
I think maybe you should see about OCD - especially Pure O ocd.

I was taught that the people who constantly give reassurance to our irrational thoughts, are actually feeding the problem.
So your hubby is doing well, even though it really feels the opposite.

If you dont get the reassurance - you are forced to trust in yourself. Which helps you gain the confidence you need in order to stop seeking the reassurance.
I hope that makes sense!

Intrusive thoughts like these often respond well to addressing in a CBT-type way. I think many people have them but, often, just close them down / don't listen where those of us who are more anxious do hear them and find them disturbing

Agree with you on the reassurance not being helpful thing as that just acknowledges the fear and almost legitimises it

Yes, i believe you are right, timid.
Cbt is a good way. It is just hard sometimes when you are in the thick of it iwkwim.

I am finding these thoughts quite disturbing to say the least. I had one last night.
My fire alarm battery is running out, and so started bleeping last night.
I thought i would get the ladders out and just take it down.

Only it is at the top of the stairs. You need to push a screwdriver into it to unclip it from the ceiling.
I had strong visuals of what could happen.

I climb up, press in to push the screwdriver into the slot - the screwdriver slips, i fall forward over the top of the ladders, straight over the bannister and down the stairs.

I have left it. They are being replaced properly on monday.

I know they are irrational. But i know these are things that could actually happen. So to trt and rationalise it - seems a wee bit impossible.

I am sure once my stress calms down, these will ease off.

Or maybe this is how my anxiety will be from now on. I seem to have got passed the worrying of others perceive me. Its still there, but i have much better control to the point it cannot really affect me anymore.