Counselling - does it really work? etc..

[essbee]

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The first few sessions are always the hardest, essbee. It does get easier as you go along & I found my sessions really helpful.

You have had a lot on your plate recently & talking through all these deeply upsetting things with a new person, is bound to be tough at first.
It should get easier & easier as you go along.xx

Just finished my sessions & will really miss my counsellors support. I finished on session 18!

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Oh dear! Well you will have plenty to cover in next weeks session!!
It does become a lot easier & I found it helpful to get things off my chest.

Hi essbee - sorry to hear things are a bit rough at the moment -
councelling can really help, but it is not a short-term fix - it's a bit of a commitment - by that I mean you need to stick it through until the end ( and BTW you will know when that is) - so don't lose heart -
and try to keep in mind that it might get worse before it gets better - stirring up old feelings and emotions is never really fun, but is the only way to get it sorted.
Take care of you -

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The first few sessions are always the hardest, even if you have had counselling before.
I went back to the very same counsellor, but had a two year gap & even though I had been there before, I found the first 3 or 4 sessions really tough.
By the time I had got through around the first 6 sessions, I found it much easier & found the sessions really helped me.
You are having to talk to someone completely new about some very traumatic things. It is bound to be tough at first.

It WILL get easier - take it from the counselling queen!!

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hi hun
bound ot feel shite when you are dredging up past issues. I always found that I was extremely reluctant at sessions which made things even harder. IF you have a good counselloer who you trust then it is likely to help..thing is its a long process which is why time limited counselling[12wks only] does not work for a lot of people.

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essbee...it is really really hard. the dredging up and the going over and the raw raw rawness are pretty awful sometimes (i can very much relate to that atm). but as has been said it is a process, and if you'll forgive the metaphor, you can't get a wound to heal if there is loads of puss in it...you have to dig down and expose the very roots of that before you can start to actually heal things. that was a very clumsy analogy but do you get kind of where i'm coming from

the childhood stuff isn't odd at all, i believe almost all of what holds us back and makes us repeatedly get into situations and states that are destructive go back to that period of early childhood.

I also believe firmly that if you can get it and if you can stick with it, long term, preferably open ended (so that you and your counsellor decide when it's time to stop) therapy is the way to go in order to really get to those roots and make long lasting deep changes.

all support to you through it though....x

also, there are good and bad counsellors, do you have a good feeling about yours (despite the painfulness)?

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