out of hours help

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dh is in a bit of a state. without taking him to a and e who can I speak to? (he says he will jump out of the car if I try to take him to a and e

I would ring an ambulance if you feel he needs to go to A&E.

You could try and find the number for the crisis team in your area, where are you?

I've googled a bit but can't find anything. he won't go with an ambulance I Dont think. I've just stopped him from going for a walk on his own. I think hes having a breakdown.

Have you called out of hours GP number? That way you might be able to get crisis team number. Has he had problems before and do you have any numbers from then if so? If you think he is a danger to himself then agree - call an ambulance

he has problems before but never been to gp about it. not on meds or anything. says he will go see gp next week. seems calmer now but will ring out of hours gp if anything else happens.

a lot to deal with on my own

You aren't on your own - you've got us..... Is there anyone in RL that could support you?

Most areas people cannot contact the mental health crisis team themselves only dh's can refer.

Best thing to do on a Saturday is to phone 111, the out of hours gp service. You can talk to the assessor then the dr when they phone and tell them how bad dh is, how he will not get in a car to go to a and e, what his threat is. They do have dr's to do home visits but are not keen on using them, so push for it!!

A and E is ok if person happy to sit there for hours to see a dr but it can be easier to see an out of hours gp either at home or wherever they are because less sitting around and waiting when anxious and they do the same anyway if it is for MH reasons. They can access the same resources without the hours of waiting.

Sorry should say only dr's can. Crisis teams gp or out of hours dh's can refer to with one phonecall. Even when under a mental health team only a few patients would be given access in most areas to a crisis team - so do not worry about not finding their number.

Why not give out of hours dr a ring - may take a few hours for a dr to visit and dh may get worse today? Is there anything causing him stress?

thank you sorry for delay I have my three boys to see to as well. hes promised me he will go on Monday first thing. so we will see. things are at breaking point though. we have children with special needs. stress at his work. on top of xmas being just around the corner. I'm struggling with it all as we as his mental health. there's deffinately something going on mentally.

I can recognise it as I'm two years down the line after being treated xxx

Go on Mon sounds good. Might be worth talking to his manager at work about stress at work because dealing with the things that are part of the problem or are hard to manage when not well can really help. On top of medical advice as well.

Hope it helpful

his boss isnt very approachable . so we just have to make things easier at home. we have two young boys with ADHD so its hard n hes not coping very well x

That is a shame.

Do you have support to help with your boys? Would that help a bit? Agree making things as easy as possible helps.

only mil close by. she can only cope with one boy at a time. weekends we struggle with though x

Would you consider asking for respite care? Not everyone wishes to but it can help. A friend has a child with down's and other children and she gets one weekend a month's respite ( child goes to regular weekend foster carers). Had to push to get it, through children's social care; it really helps.

we have tried and still are trying but because its "only" ADHD we aren't entitled to any help. it's shit. I've even report myself to social services last year but nothing happened.

Yes my friend had to really push - whether it is only something or not it is assessing whether the child and family is in need. Sc are the people to assess and to get funding from for it. Why not contact them again and ask for an appointment. Ask for them to do a CAF, a legal meeting that assesses needs, which hopefully will allow you to request respite care. Especially if your dh is so ill by it, you can state all those reasons; no idea if you will get funding but worth asking again?