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Feel like no one wants me to get well

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headmeetwall · 29/10/2013 17:44

I am really at the end of what I can cope with for many reasons and after suffering a breakdown two months ago I feel like no one is helping me.

My employers are awful and unsupportive.
My partner is also going through a tough time so has become self centred.
My family live far away and don't understand and don't make an effort to understand.

My doctor is wonderful and has done all she can in terms of medication and referrals. She honestly is the only one who has my interests in mind and wants to see me improve. She is furious about the mental health system but there is nothing more she can do herself except keep referring.

I was referred to a psychiatric team for a full assessment as there are still issues with medication and my behaviours as well as anxiety and depression. They decided without even speaking to me that I didn't need the referral and enrolled me into a group talking therapy course (which my doctor thinks will be no help what so ever and could even potentially make things worse).

The group therapy was oversubscribed and they only rang me an hour before to tell me I didn't have a place and have booked me in for a different date when I'm working and my employers won't give me the time off.

Why does no one want me to get better? I can't do this on my own.

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RandomMess · 29/10/2013 17:49

Hmmmm I'm not sure your employers can refuse you time off? They don't have to pay you for the time you're not at work though.

Is it group psycotherapy? That is a very valid treatment and the psych team do know more about mental health issues than GPs.

headmeetwall · 29/10/2013 18:28

Talking therapies just don't work for me. I tried a few years ago on a 1-2-1 basis and it just left both me and the councillor in tears, and I felt 100x worse after every session.

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RandomMess · 29/10/2013 18:30

Was it a councellor or a psycotherapist - they are different things?

fluffydressinggown · 30/10/2013 10:45

RandomMess is right, this group therapy they want you to do is not the same as counselling, it will be based around CBT which is about developing the skills to turn negative thoughts into more positive ones.

It is good that your GP is so supportive. The community mental health teams are really overwelhmed at the moment and the threshold of illness to get you under their care is really very high. It is certainly not right though and I can see why you feel abandoned.

I think you could try the group thing, if it doesn't work then it might help you to get a referal into the community MH team.

I am sorry you feel so low, it is horrible to have MH problems. Take care.

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