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emetophobes, it's that time of year :(

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devilinside · 07/10/2013 09:31

First bucket sighting at school this morning. My sister had norovirus last week after attending a party where some selfish buggers thought it was acceptable to bring along a vomiting toddler. Most of the other guests got the bug including an elderly man. Feel free to add your rants and worries here.

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Marne · 20/11/2013 10:12

Dancegirl, I am the same, if I feel sick then I often think ' I would rather be dead than be sick' Sad .

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Dancergirl · 20/11/2013 11:01


It's comforting to know we're not on our own.
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Newcurtainsplease · 20/11/2013 11:20

Waves to everyone
monikar The last flight I went on I spent the whole time panicking because I heard someone say they felt sick. It's getting to the stage now that I don't want to travel at all because I'm worried that someone will be ill. I'm considering seeing my GP about some kind of CBT, has anyone else done this?

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Dancergirl · 20/11/2013 11:27

new I've had CBT and for me it didn't work at all, sorry.

The jist of it was that the therapist wanted me to change my thinking of being sick from being 'terrifying' to 'unpleasant'. All fine in theory, doesn't work in practice.

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Marne · 20/11/2013 11:41

I have had CBT too with not much success, I do try and use CBT to calm myself down but doesn't really work, have also had hypnotherapy with no success at all, at the moment I use mindfulness techniques which help a little ( it's more about distracting your brain when you are anxious rather than trying to cure the phobia ), I think I have now excepted that this phobia is not going to go away and I just need to do my best to cope with the situation, I am not as anxious as I used to be ( used to think about being sick every day but now it's more of a winter phobia, not half as bad during the summer ), I keep trying to tell myself that its not worth getting worked up about until it actually happens and then I need to focus on the fact it won't last for ever ( even though it feels like its going on for ever if the kids or I get ill ).

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BeckyBendyLegs · 20/11/2013 15:37

Stomach bug rife in DSs' school right now, ten off from one class (not the same as any of mine in). Terrified. We're going away this weekend to Cardiff to the Dr Who museum. Terrified one of them is going to get it.

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IcouldstillbeJoseph · 20/11/2013 21:12

Right! I'm going to have to join in too!
I'm identifying so much with all on this. I hate feeling sick so much I would rather have anything else! I was in ITU with severe pneumonia when pregnant and said to DH through my oxygen mask that it was a million times better than morning sickness. He thinks I'm a loony! He hasn't been sick in the time we've been together but I dread it. The thought if him being sick is awful - even though he's not that bothered.
I have 2 v young DC and DS has had 2 bugs that I've had. This time of year is awful

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ProudAS · 20/11/2013 22:24

Can anyone recommend over the counter medication for sickness?

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BlessThisMess · 20/11/2013 22:50

Joining in too. Have had this phobia for over 40 years, though it is much more manageable since I've been on a small dose of a SSRI drug.

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Marne · 21/11/2013 10:24

Proud - you can get Motilium in boots and most chemists (but you have to ask for it over the counter). I get it from my local chemist and have bought them online (but beware if you buy online they may question why you want them if buying more than one packet).

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monikar · 21/11/2013 11:18

Welcome to all the newcomers Smile.

Becky ten in one class! I remember those days when DD was at junior school and the bugs would sweep through. She didn't always get it though, so fingers crossed for you that yours escape. If they are not in the same class then the odds are on your side.

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alexle · 21/11/2013 14:53

Please can anyone help. My little boy has been really sick this morning. My husband has come home from work to help. I'm hiding downstairs at the moment. Feeling so anxious I don't know what to do with myself. I can hear Ds calling for me but I just can't go. Feel so ashamed and guilty. Terrified of him being sick again and me and husband getting ill.

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IcouldstillbeJoseph · 21/11/2013 14:59

How old is your DS? How long till your DH home?
Holding your hand here - I know the anxiety

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monikar · 21/11/2013 15:28

Everyone on here understands the anxiety. The best thing to do to prevent the bug going round everyone is to wash the hands and faces of everyone in the house. This gets rid of the droplets and prevents it from being passed on. If you do this, then the great likelihood is that you won't get it. I usually do this with baby wipes as I can then throw them away.

Really hope he feels better soon.

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Marne · 21/11/2013 16:33

alexle Sad ,how old is your DS? chances are if he hasn't been sick since this morning he probably wont again, hopefully he will fall asleep soon and sleep it off (this is what my dd2 used to do), I always keep my dd's in their rooms when they are sick then at least its contained in one room, I always throw away any bedding that has been sick on, bleach any surfaces (hot soapy water and/or bleach is better than anything else), make sure your Dh is washing his hands too. A lot of stomach bugs such as rotrovirus (sp) adults are more likely to be immune too (you tend to get them a couple times as a child before building up immunity).

If you can get to a chemist you could buy yourself some anti sickness meds (which I linked too in a post above), I always take these when my dd's are ill and I have started feeling poorly and they do work, I took them when dd2 shared a bug with me a few years ago and I got through it without being sick (though I felt poorly but not half as bad).

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alexle · 21/11/2013 17:55

Hello everyone. Thank you all so much for replying and for being so kind. Poor Ds has carried on being sick through the day and now has diarrhoea. My husband is at home with him and I have gone out to get some supplies. I'm just walking around really anxious as I can't face going home which makes me feel terribly guilty. I have just bought some mot ilium Marne, thank you. To top it all off my phone is running out if battery too. My Ds is 2.5 and doesn't understand what's happening poor thing.

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BabyHaribo · 21/11/2013 18:05

Oh alexle you poor thing! That was me last weekend so you have ALL my sympathy. It really really hard but it will be over soon.

We are all better following the bug although DS who has never been a good eater seems to be retching on certain foods or having too much in his mouth which is not good for anxiety levels Grin.
I'm also 6 weeks pregnant so ms has set in and feel nauseous all morning. It's making me constantly obsess about bugs how to avoid them and just reminding me of last weekend.

10 children sick in one class! That's horrible fingers crossed for your DC.

Does anyone know if you can buy antiviral hand wash/gel? Everything I was looking at today was antibacterial but most of these bugs are viruses.

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Marne · 21/11/2013 18:23

I think you can get the anti viral hand gel online but not sure where, anti bac is a waste of time Sad.

Fingers crossed for you alexle, hopefully you and your dh wont catch it but if you do you have the motilium to hand, hopefully your ds will be asleep when you get back and will be feeling better in the morning.

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Marne · 21/11/2013 19:00
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alexle · 21/11/2013 19:10

Thank you Marne xx

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Dancergirl · 21/11/2013 23:24

alexle poor you, I really sympathise. The anxiety is awful. Please don't feel guilty, we all can't help feeling like we do. I bet you're a great mum to your ds.

How is he?

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BabyHaribo · 22/11/2013 07:25

How is your DS alexle? Hope you all had a reasonable night

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Marne · 22/11/2013 08:20

Hope your ds is feeling better this morning alexle?

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alexle · 22/11/2013 09:11

Thank you so much everyone for your support. He was fine overnight and had some breakfast this morning. I on the other hand feel awful emotionally. It just feels that whatever I try my phobia gets worse. It was fairly well controlled until I had my Ds and he had his first bug. I have just started seeing a dr who specialises in treating this phobia and have an appointment on Monday. I just feel like it's an insurmountable problem at the moment. Has anyone had any success with treatment? I'm sorry to be so negative and again thank you so much for helping me get through yesterday.
Baby haribo, I'm sorry you had such a bad time last weekend and glad you are all better now. Congratulations on your pregnancy too. Xx

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BeckyBendyLegs · 22/11/2013 09:20

Alexle I hope you are ok. It's a horrid, horrid feeling the anxiety. I would swap it for anxiety about anything else - spiders will do. I love spiders. I'd rather be terrified of spiders than sickness bugs.

I'm still on high alert with bug going around the school but all three DSs went happily to school today dressed as pirates as it is 'pirate day'.

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