Have been meaning to write for advice for ages but didn't really know how to. I still feel really affected by my difficult childhood. My dad was emotionally abusive and violent towards my siblings and me and I struggle everyday not to be like him.
I don't have any issues about getting violent - I hated him soo much for that, that I know I could not and would not ever inflict that on my two DD's.
But - have found out recently that for the past 20 years he has had another family. I feel soo rejected, disappointed and above all angry. I am soo angry at how he has treated my mum and my siblings for soo long that I don't know how to deal with it. It is really beginning to get me down and hits me when I least expect it. I want to be a happier person for my children and don't want this man to affect me anymore.
Has anyone else gone through this? How did you get help? I just feel so lost.