It's a dear friends funeral today...

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But it's in London, I'm about 80 miles away and I would be going on my own :(

I am a bit scared to be honest and I don't know whether or not to just stay here with my family
Would that be an awful thing for me to do?

Struggling this morning, massive anxiety bubbling in my belly and just a bit scared of seeing people - though I'm sure they are all lovely.

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I think you have to do what's right for you. There are other ways you could remember your friend.
Or if you really want to go is there anyone who could go with you?

I agree if there is anyone that could go with you then ask them. Sometimes we feel that we can't ask but others would willingly help.

But I also think that if you don't want to go you shouldn't force yourself and instead do something that doesn't cause you too much pain. I'm sure your friend would not want that for you.

UnMN hug for you.

I am sorry for your loss. It sounds like you would like to be there, and the funeral service can be really helpful. If you feel you can't face it perhaps you can pay your respects in another way. How about writing something down, and sending it up into the sky attached to a helium balloon?
If you do go will there be people you know to sit with? That might make it easier if you can arrange to meet someone outside and sit with them during the service. All the best and I hope it goes well.

If DH was to come with me he would have to bring the children too and that just sounds hectic and I doubt they would enjoy the hours in the car or the funeral (they are 1 and 3)

Could you break the journey up with a park stop or food stop.
How about if dh came with you but maybe not into the service hut you would know he is around straight afterwards.

Agree with chocolate that is most probably what I would do.

Well the funeral is at 12 and the journey is a good couple of hours so we'd have to leave quickly but DH has expressed not particularly wanting to come with me.

That is a suggestion I will put to him though

Hope you come to a solution you are happy with.
How old was your friend?

38 he died of throat cancer, it was expected so we got to share our memories of him. He was a much loved guy and I am sure it will be a lovely service. I just don't know if I can handle it on my own!

Can't do it, the talking to people and the trip :( such a shame.

Oh my what a young age :(

Sorry you didn't feel up to going.. Hope your day was as good as it could be.

It was okay, I hid in bed for a while, did some research upstairs and then got ripped apart on a Mumsnet thread ;)

Oh no - Which thread was that.

Oh I started a thread about social workers, I should have expected it really!

I think sometimes on here people can forget that it takes quite a lot of determination to get up and do something and so when they act like you might as well not bother it can be very very hard x

I agree it can be a hard place sometimes.
How long have you been on Mumsnet?

About six months. Apparently I have upset one of the more prolific posters which basically means I get loads of shit from her and her mates.

Fortunately I am still enthusiastic and happy about the course I have chosen to do and my abilities in it.

Good for you and best of luck on your course.

Thank you :) it gives me something positive to do and I really enjoy it.