negative personality- anyone successfully changed ?

[Ihavethislittlesister]

Im massively negative about everything, can never see the positive side and it makes things really really hard (there I go again!).

is it possibly to flip over to being more positive?

Try this technique if you find it difficult to be your own spin doctor.

In a notebook, write down your negative thoughts. In short, simple statements. Then, turn the page over and write the exact opposite, positive statement. Cross through the negative ones. Read the positive ones.

Keep doing it.

Mindfulness? Awareness and acceptance of yourself as you are - many of us are natural realists pessimists, just can go too far, that's all. And notice your negative thoughts, just that and accept them as just thoughts. Which will pass.
"You are not your thoughts" is something i take great comfort from.
There are several mindfulness threads on here inc one I've just joined which is a support for working thro an 8 week mindfulness course. Why not join us?

"Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes."

Have you thought about getting some therapy? It's really helping me

In the meantime, can you change the script a little bit? I'm prone to saying "everything" or "nothing" automatically, as pointed out by my therapist. I'm now trying to supplement with "some things, sometimes" and it is helping, albeit slowly

A very simple one that I'm finding helpful - and doing on a thread here is to start focusing a bit more on the positives.

So at the end of the day write down three good things about the day - can be anything from a beautiful sunny morning/made a cake/got kids to school/did washing up/made XX phonecall.

But just acknowledging these starts to gradually change the emphasis in your mind away from negative to positive. Worked for my dh and is starting to help with me too. Good luck.

thanks for your helpful posts.

I like the one from Glenshee :)