What type of therapy do I need?

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Hello

Finally accepted that I need a little help before I completely ruin my life and push my family away.

I have really bad control issues and it's got worse the more children I have had, the control comes out in types of I guess OCD, house needs to be just so, in my head I know how the day/hour should be and if it not I can get really frustrated and become horrible with shouting etc.

I just don't know who,what I need to do to sort this out?

Thanks

First step is to visit gp. Maybe cbt would suit you x

Have you asked your GP? Have you looked at approved therapists in your area?

OCD is treatable and CBT has pretty good results.

If you're willing to work hard and make profound changes, most things can be improved.

Admitting you need help us a great start, best of luck to you!

I have private health care that will cover it and I know it will take a week to get into the doctors then months to get anything through them and I want to tackle this now.

I think it's more the control that is an issue than the OCD type stuff.

Just don't know what type of therapist I need though when searching?

But control issues can have their roots in OCD or in obsessive behaviour. I suggest you google BACP (British Assoc Counsellors & therapists) as they are accredited to the national organisation and will be properly qualified.

When you find some in your area, it will usually say what their expertise is, but most of them just list a whole host of things. Obsessive behaviour can sometimes have its roots in an anxious childhood, though not always. IF this was the case then a psycho dynamic therapist would help you unearth something that might have troubled you in your early life. If it's about the "here and now" then CBT might be the best therapy.

I think the most important thing is that you find a competent therapist with whom you feel safe and comfortable. This is very important as therapy can sometimes be emotionally painful. Any good therapist will suggest that you use the first session to see whether you feel you could enter into a therapeutic alliance, and take it from there.

If you have private cover then why not ask for a referral for a session with a private psychiatrist to get a diagnosis and then get the psychiatrist to suggest based on their diagnosis what private treatments you can get access to. On the NHS it will be much more limited and much longer waits.

How old is your youngest DC? Could it be PND?

Hi, control issues can be a symptom of anxiety - the controlling behaviours or needing things just so is to reduce anxiety. Does that sound like you?
CBT is probably worth a try but your GP might be able to advise x

Not PND as youngest is 4.5! Maybe anxious childhood my dad was very poorly when I was 8, then my brother was when I was 12 then lots of cancer etc with grandparents and stuff. But I had an amazing childhood and only have fond memories.

Told my mum today and she said yes it would be a good idea as I am really controlling and not a nice person sometimes :(

Do you know anything about mindfulness? I find it a very powerful tool for managing my emotions.

Sorry your mum's words were hurtful - did it come from a good place?