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feeling awful

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mouses · 06/09/2013 20:47

having a down day, couldnt get up this morning boys were sent to school whilst i was laying in bed, just kept checking (calling to them) if they had what they needed and then out on time. from my bed! got up got dressed but felt so tired and zombied i had to go and lay back down on my bed.

daughter was left to watch peppa pig, she did keep coming in and telling me to get up but i kept raising my voice and telling her i was tired. how bad a parent am i?!

im not liking being a parent at all, i find it so stressful and extreemly hard. although i wouldnt want social services to know that i exhaust myself trying to cope every day, i have days - like today that i dont want them, could do without them.

i know i must sound like a cold hearted piece of work and prepared for a grilling but i cant feel any lower then i do right now to be honest.

i had my assesssment a few weeks ago and was told again that im depressed have since felt like i have given up getting help, havent phoned for counselling, havent gone back to my gp.

if you have read my other threads i know i go on about being mis-diagnosed, i hate being depressed, i hate that when i feel i want to explain to someone why a i am how i am and do what i do. that telling people i have depression they dont understand me, i feel unless they have had it - alot of people see depression as some one who just cries alot! so doesnt explain me at all.

sorry to ramble on, needed to off load.

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HoopHopes · 06/09/2013 22:04

Hi. Do you have any support with your children, a partner, family to help? I spent the last 8 weeks as a single parent basically and I am absolutely exhausted. Totally. Shattered.

Do you have a child under the age of five, of so you can ask for help from home start for free. That may help. Or at least be some support for your children. Your HV may be able to offer ideas too.

It is ok to have a down day, that is life and realistic for many people. And yes it is horrid. There are few magic answers out there. Blood tests to rule obvious thyroid or physical health issues aside ( and vitamin d and anaemia), it is about doing the best you can. If you are worried about the children see what professional support is out there for you. Or have family or friends as back up if you can, at least occasionally. Medication can help lift mood. And sunlight is my biggest help, once I can drag myself outside on one of the days there is sun.

Sorry I rambled and said too much.

How was the rest of the day? How did you cope tonight? Any plans for weekend to make life easier?

MorrisZapp · 06/09/2013 22:08

Are you taking anything for your depression?

mouses · 06/09/2013 22:39

hi hoop

not support as such, boys dad has them for the day every other weekend, partner lives with his parents. no family support.

my dd is under 5 but i dont want homestart, if you remember my other post i was at a stage where i was thinking about my boys going to live with their dad?

have had thyroids checked, had a full health check done. i have A friend who helps me out, but no one as back up really. im on AD's and am waiting for psychiatrist referal.

day has been a struggle, other than sleeping half the day out, i just sat hopelessly on the sofa with tv being dd's childminder! ds's came in from school and were sulking and mumbling under their breath about me cos i didnt let them out the communal garden, refering to me as 'she' could feel my stress levels reaching boiling point.

ive was in my room to be out of sight, with thoughts of talking to their dad about having them.

i have to go out this week end as i forgot to get my ds's pe trainers, im dreading it! hate going out so wont be having an easy week end.

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mouses · 06/09/2013 22:40

sorry morris x post, i take fluoxetine and diazepam when needed.

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