Feel that people don't like me!

[Josie10]

I've always struggled with thinking people don't like me, mainly because I think I'm boring and don't have as much to say as everyone else. I have a couple of good friends that I 'knew' liked me but I'm starting to doubt that now. My closest friend is very sociable and likeable much more than me, I'm starting to feel that she's seeing me for what I really am! Not sure what that is but it 's not great!
I have 3dc and my dh is very busy over summer so I've been doing everything which I think has got me down a bit! Feel tired and heavy!

Thank you for reading!!

i feel the same only have a couple of friends and recently feel like ive done somethong wrong and doesnt want to see me anymore

do u go to any baby groups? that mite meet new friends there.

I feel the same so I have nothing useful to say. Sorry. I know (from posts on Facebook) that they've been meeting up without inviting me whereas they always used to invite me and DC's too. I don't know what I've done except they must be seeing me for who I really am.

Sounds like you 3 could start your own group.

imo, most people only need 2 or 3 good friends.
Personally, I find that I am not the most sociable person in the world, and 2 or 3 is enough.

Also think, that when you have children, past friends or friends that dont have children naturally are moving in slightly different circles.

That's sad that you feel that way as well!

Yellow balloons- are you being sarcastic about having our own group?

sounds like it to me. Thanks

Lucky you for having 2-3 good friends. My good friends from pre-baby days are all baby-less and uninterested in baby stuff and have gradually cut contact also due to moving to different ends of the country, them having a job, me being unemployable etc. The friends I made from playgroups now seem to be making their own group. I still see them at the official groups but we are no longer invited to other meet ups. Makes going to the playgroup somewhat awkward and stilted.

No. Good grief.
Am leaving this thread now.
Never left a Mental Health thread in my life before.

Because they would have no reason to like someone like me. I feel sorry for my DS though, he keeps asking to play with their kids (only people we know with kids his age and who speak the same language) and I'm running out of reasons to give him.

Yellowballoons - sorry that I took your comment the wrong way and offended you.
I am very interested in other people, ask lots of question about what they do etc but feel i have nothing of value to talk about me or generally?
Yes, I suppose my friend situation is good but feel I put so much importance on it and am very sensitive to what they say and think oh that means they don't like me anymore. It's all a bit ridiculous really.
My friend invited us for BBQ and we had nice time but I was concerned her husband seemed bit quiet so when we got home I was very upset, thinking he didn't like me or want us there. I'm sure it wasn't 't that but does anyone get what I'm saying?

Josie10 Thank you for your apology.

My philosophy on friendship is that you get out what you put in. You have to invite people to do stuff not always be the one who is invited. No one likes putting themselves out there and risking rejection but you don't have to ask people on holiday or even for dinner, just 'I'm taking the DC to the park, do you guys want to come?' Is fine. If they are busy they are busy.

I think people find it easier to be friends with positive people. That doesn't mean you can't be honest about how you feel, but you could say three positive things for every negative, or try and phrase things in a positive way.

People love talking about themselves, their kids and to be asked their advice so it's always worth asking questions even if it's just ' taking DH to the cinema, have you seen anything good you recommend?' Or 'how to you manage to get DC to do their homework on time?'