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Mental health

have i made a mistake

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porkpie12 · 04/09/2013 10:32

started today in year 7 chose a school short drive or 15mins walk we also have a school opposite our house child preferred the other one. went in today dropped them down i have come home in a complete panic thinking i should of chose the one over the road as now worrying about picking up dropping off every day no other children walking this way can't help thinking what have i done

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ComeIntoTheGardenMaud · 05/09/2013 07:21

Hope you got some sleep and are feeling better today.

porkpie12 · 05/09/2013 07:41

spoke to the sanaritans wobderful people talked lots of sense going to phone docs to get in dont feel any better

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ComeIntoTheGardenMaud · 05/09/2013 07:46

I'm glad the Samaritans were able to help. Do get an appointment with your GP as soon as you can. You don't need to go through this unsupported.

Blu · 05/09/2013 17:59

Well done for talking to the Samaritans, and I am very pleased they were helpful.

You can phone them every day, you now, if it helps!

Good luck with getting a GP appointment asap. They will be able to help you with suitable meds, and GPs can also prescribe a counselling course.

How is your dd enjoying her new school?

porkpie12 · 05/09/2013 18:33

gp was fab feel so much better and thanks for all your help mumsnet is so good when things not so good

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porkpie12 · 07/09/2013 12:15

really no better dreading monday morning feel sick cant even face taking her had diazipan not touched it will go back monday morning feel so bad on my family for what i have put them through

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ComeIntoTheGardenMaud · 07/09/2013 12:30

Oh dear. I'm sorry things have taken a downward turn. Would taking the diazepam help - I guess the doctor thought it would. Try to hang onto the idea that your daughter is at a good school and even if it isn't just over the road, it's really not too far away. How did she enjoy her first week?

Keep posting here. We're listening.

porkpie12 · 07/09/2013 12:48

just driving everyone mad feel desperate dont know what to do going back to docs monday need some anti ds i think

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ComeIntoTheGardenMaud · 07/09/2013 13:07

Do you have a walk-in clinic nearby?

Would it be helpful to ring the Samaritans again?

porkpie12 · 07/09/2013 13:17

hubby taking us out for an hour still feel desperate like ive made the biggest mistake of my life

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ComeIntoTheGardenMaud · 07/09/2013 13:44

I hope the outing lifts your spirits.

If you were able to look at this dispassionately, you would know that you have made a good choice for your daughter, but your illness means that you can't see that at the moment.

Have you got an appointment with your GP for Monday?

porkpie12 · 07/09/2013 14:47

went out feel better a bit now feeling like im being disloyal to my son and what people would think i was doing sending my children ti different schools my mind is in termoil

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racingheart · 07/09/2013 16:24

Hi pork pie,
One thing to hold onto is that a decision you made when you were feeling well is likely to be a far better and more rational one than you're making whilst feeling so ill. You can comfort yourself with the fact that you made a great decision in good health. What is very important is that she is happy at that new school and it is smaller, and better suited to her.

Of course you feel anxious. It's normal. There will have been anxious mums up and down the country over the last week, questioning their decisions. I did! As you are feeling unwell, it's more noticeable for you. You've done well by her. You didn't pick a convenient school out of laziness but one further away because it suited her. That's a good sign. And she can walk 15 mins. No need to rive her. She'll probably bump into people on the way.

Focus on getting yourself well and try to see your anxiety as something separate from the decision about school. It's just pinned on that for now, it's not really about that iyswim.

ComeIntoTheGardenMaud · 07/09/2013 18:45

racingheart expresses it very well. This mental turmoil is your illness speaking. I am quite sure that people don't think badly of you because your children are at different schools.

porkpie12 · 08/09/2013 08:27

no better had to phone an emergency doc last night actually dreading dropping her tom its really busy outside the school if id of just sent her over the road wouldnt be going through all this

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Blu · 09/09/2013 18:20

How are you today, PorkPie?
Was the emergency doctor helpful?
How is your dd getting on at her school?

You know, you didn't make this decision, did you? You and your DD and your DH all made the decision together! 3 people! And you contributed to the decision when you were well.

Just focus on your needs in getting well now, OP. Call the Samaritans whenever you need to, and talk to your DH.

OliviaMMumsnet · 09/09/2013 21:29

Hello OP
Sorry to read that you're going through all this - do let us know if youd like us to move this thread to our mental health topic
Kindest
MNHQ

Blu · 09/09/2013 23:06

That seems a good idea. PorkPie - there are lots and lots of MNers on the mental health board who know exactly what you are going through, and can offer the right kind of help and support, rather than leaving this in Education.

Still thinking of you.

porkpie12 · 11/09/2013 13:21

still just as bad thinking of moving her its only been a week on anti depressants now just wish id put school over the road from day one

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Blu · 12/09/2013 20:00

So sorry you are still feeling bad.

You say you think you want to move her, but how does SHE feel?. She preferred the school she is at, didn't she?

It doesn't really sound as if the depth of your distress is actually about the school and the journey but about your anxiety and mental health needs.

I know nothing about helping people who feel as you do, but from everything you have said, it sounds as if your dd is fine in the school she is at, it would be a shame to uproot her and put her in a school she is less positive about.

Leave your dd where she is for now and just concentrate on getting yourself well.

Your post is on the Education board, here. Would you like MN to move it to Mental Health where people who have the same problems as you can offer their particular expertise?

camptownraces · 12/09/2013 22:51

It can take up to a couple of weeks for anti-depressants like diazepam to be effective - they act cumulatively.

porkpie12 · 14/09/2013 13:30

update been back to docs yesterday moved down to my moms for weekend still in turmoil om 3 lots of meds put my family through hell if only i had put the school across the road if i could turn back the clock listened to too many other parents and should just do what my family does still want to move her

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Blu · 14/09/2013 14:00

PorkPie, I am glad you are at your Mums.

These are comments from your thread that YOU have made:

child preferred the other one. (i.e the one she is at)
i know i am overeacting
she loved it and it is a lot smaller so once inside i know its the best option

She is in the school she preferred, and which suits her best.

If you move her now you wil disrupt her, go against what is best for her and what she wants.

You have NOT made a mistake, it is a symptom of your current illness that you think you have. Hopefully with some support from your Mum, GP, Samaritans etc you will feel better v soon and realise that you have successfully helped your dd make the transition to a good local school that suits her - and be PROUD of yourself!

titchy · 14/09/2013 14:22

Please don't move schools just to make YOU feel better.

Blu · 16/09/2013 18:15

How was your weekend with your Mum, PorkPie?

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