I'm leaving DH because of my mental illness.

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Back story I have bipolar 1 when manic I hear voices that tell me to sleep round and I do. That's not all I do I'm aggressive I over spend and I go out all hours. When depressed I spend months in bed and attempt suicide.

Now dh has confessed that every night I am on a episode he wants to commit suicide. I love dh very much and I can't risk him doing that. Plus our dc need at least one stable parent so I am going to leave after our family holiday.

I was a teen mum and gave up my studies to look after dc and I have a young dc who is 20months one with severe sn and a older child with mild sn. Can people advise me please

Sorry to ask an obvious question, but have you seen a GP and had referral to any specialists? Are you on any medication and if so, do you feel it's not helping, which may be making you feel the way you do? Maybe another visit to the GP rather than leave your family, who you must try to remember, will want you to stay!

Your dh must want to support you, can he see anyone to understand how best he can be there at times like this?

If you are in the UK have you looked at the MIND website, I think they can offer advice.

I don't have other suggestions right now but hope you can get some support soon. My sister has had episodes of mental illness and at the worst of it we all thought the sun would never shine again. She had good help through the NHS but crucially family support. Her dp at the time (now her husband) talked to counsellors too so was better able to deal with his own feelings about it.

Wishing you well.

Sorry this is short, but read the other day and have been thinking of you. Just wanted to say that as someone married to a man with bipolar who tells me many times a day that I shouldn't "put up" with him (his words) - you not being with your family will not make them worry about you less, or stop loving you. If your husband loves you and wants to support you, let him. It is good that he can share with you how he feels, all communication is good even if its not things that are good to hear. Please don't walk away from your support xx

Thanks both I have discussed with dh and agreed that if he goes to see his gp and speaks to the Samaritans about how he is feeling I will give us another chance.

I just think like your dh says Snipface that my dh deserve better.

Has your dh had a carer's assessment to provide him with any support? Do you have support with your sn children to help you? Useful HV and team?

Dh has not had a carers assessment but we do have lots of support with the dc.

Glad you have the support. Can you request a carer's assessment for your dh and perhaps get him to talk with your mental health dr etc as it can be very hard for partners of people with MH conditions as my dp would testify to.

Thank you very much I will enquire about this.