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I'm definetly going crazy help!

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Lettuce91 · 23/08/2013 14:47

Have a past history of depression but been fine for a couple of years up until the last couple of months. Me and my partner decided to start TTC so came off the pill in July and have had unprotected sex since.

Ever since I was a wee girl I have always wanted to meet the man of my dreams, get married and have children. I have always wanted to settle down from an early age and now finally found someone who wants the same except the marriage part. I've known this from the beginning and made it clear how important marriage is to me and that I wouldn't have a life where I don't get married (a bit selfish I know). I really do love my partner but now all of a sudden I've changed my mind, I want to get married before having a baby and I'm even starting to think that my partner isn't the one for me and I would be left a single parent. I'm really stressing out and I've just told him today that I want to go back on the pill and he's now really angry with me for getting his hopes up about having a baby.
I'm just so up and down, I think this could actually end us and I don't know what to do.

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Lettuce91 · 23/08/2013 14:48

One minute I want to ttc and the next I seem to be talking myself out of it!

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nenevomito · 23/08/2013 15:44

You're not "going crazy", so this really is the wrong topic to post in. Hmm

Tell him that you want to be married before having children and since marriage is a deal breaker for him and for you that is why you have changed your mind FFS.

Going crazy my arse - get a grip.

Get it moved into relationships.

Lettuce91 · 23/08/2013 15:55

Aye alright you no need for the attitude

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Mumblepot26 · 23/08/2013 20:10

Lay off baby!! Goodness which sensitivity school did you go to?

Lettuce don't have much advise for you, but hoping someone wise will come along soon.

think really carefully before you end, an otherwise good relationship(?), for the sake of what is ultimately just a legal document.

nenevomito · 23/08/2013 21:07

I am sensitive when its warranted.

I am sure the OP could try talking to her partner about it, that's all. Nowt crazy about that.

bootsycollins · 23/08/2013 21:42

It's perfectly normal to have a bit of a wobble and question things when your making a huge decision. Talk about your worries and fears with your partner. Don't get too hung up on the idea of marriage, it's not a guarantee in life. Having a good relationship and loving each other is what's really important.

Lettuce91 · 23/08/2013 22:25

Thanks for the responses. I just have a problem thinking properly everything gets mushed into a big mess haha thanks x

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OliviaMMumsnet · 23/08/2013 22:58

Hello there
Do let us know if you'd like us to move this to our relationships topic.
Thanks

Lettuce91 · 24/08/2013 11:39

Yes please :)

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