Fed up

[Jennypog]

I don;t know why I feel so fed up because I have got it all - a brilliant hubby and 2 lovely kids, a challenging career that I only have to do part time, but I get so fed up. I feel all my friends have moved away over the years, so I hardly know anyone here anymore. My parents and in laws are getting really old now and my brother and sister moved abroad, as well as my brother in law. So I have no relatives round here except parents. If my parents have to go into hospital, my brother rings up and shouts at me for not doing more for them and why am I at home when I should be helping my dad out.

I know that there is nothing anyone can do, but I just feel happy to tell the computer how I feel. My neighbours are all vile people so I can;t have a chat over the fence. I feel quite isolated except for my immediate family. I feel envious of people who go out for drinks and meals with others whether they are relatives or friends, because I don't have anyone to go with. God don't I sound pathetic! Thanks for listening.

Hi there you dont sound pathetic at all.I dont have family live near by and i am married and got 1 daughter.I feel fed up.I dont have a social life or friends to go out with.I know how you feel.My name is jenny.I cant remember the last meal out or fun that i have had.I dont mean to depress you.What i am finding difficult is that i am happy been a mum and get time in the evening but i want to work. I readon every site it says the same as what people put.Like working for avon and stuff.I leave messages but its the same.Ive even chatted to other mums but after a month they just blank me.Where as i wont do that to people. If someone emails then i get back to them.That is what i put to one of the mums on a different site.
If you want a chat feel free.Hope that helps

Jenny,sounds like you are in a rut (and who isn't when busy keeping a family together??)

Most people are so caught up in the frenzy of family life that they find it hard to break out.
You have to be proactive and do it for yourself.Take charge,start a sport or evening class or call up a few people and ask them over for a get together.

That's what I do wneh I feel like this.

Moondog. Hi my name is jenny aswell.I wish it was so simple for people to say take a evening class up or call a few people.Im not having a go but what do you do when you dont have family live near or no friends? I wish i was like some of the people on here that have got family near and got a career.What are you suppose to do when you dont know what to do and you have got no money to start anything. Ive got evenings free. I am a full time career and a mum so i cant do a few hours job otherwise i will be working my tits off for the sake of nothing.Do you know of anything.I know how the other jenny feels. There is a lot of epople that go through it and some people dont understand if they are not going through it

CM,I konw it's hard but plenty of people are without family and friends.
If you have the right attitude,it is incredibly easy to get involved and get a new set of friends.
I moved to my village two years ago.By getting involved in the PTA,playgroup and Sunday school,I suddenly have a big network of people.

I also spend a large part of each year in a country where I know hardly anyone,ands don't speak the language.
By contrast,being in a new part of the UK is a breeze.

Do an evening course (I did wine appreciation,computing and patchwork quilting.None cost more than £40 for 20 weeks.)
Join a sports or walking club.
Get involved in politics/parish council (offer to lick envelopes or drop leaflets),volunteer for something,host foreign students....

There are a million and one things!

caringmum, I had no family or friends near me when dd was born. It's more common than you think. My strategy was to force myself out to mother & toddler groups (often very cheap or even free). I have made friends that way and it has worked out great as they have children dd's age so dd has friends too.
It is really hard at first but well worth the effort. Loads of good advice from Moondog.

Jenny, reading your post was like looking at my life. I have great husband and 3 beautiful children. Only I have no friends left around here, and no one talks to me at baby and toddler groups.
I too have vile neighbours and feel trapped, not with my life, but in my house!! I dont have a car anymore and only go out locally. But not having any local friends makes life so lonely.

Def try and find an evening class or correspondence course you could do in the evenings when the children are in be.

Tell your brother to go and procreate with himself. Is HE round at your dad's helping him out or does he just expect you to drop everything and run round?