im scared i wont get the help i need

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I have access and assessment team coming on thursday and im worrying they might look at me a say im fine just keep taking ad's!

i feel let down so far - i went to havco confidence course and was told 'i cant be that bad cos i make it to the classess each week' AND 'some people cant even get out of bed' couple of her comments.
this made me feel like i dont deserve the help cos im nott as bad as others - but trust me ive seen my dd's face when she's seen me cry and it heurts, so i get out of bed for her!!!

i also went to a one to one recovery star with mind. the lady used the swear words bollocks, piss off and fuck this!!! whilst explaining her own sons fight with depression, while i sat there listening to her!!! then told me she had worse people in her room - telling about things that should be confidential right?

after asking me to rate myself between 1-10 on certain aspects of life like self esteem, support, independence etc.... she says at the end.... ok i'll see you in 6mths!!! what?!

now im worried the A&A team will say im fine :-( im fed up that the health services go by text book and if you dont match up 'your fine' or not as bad? that i have to attempt suicide to get them to realise! im good at covering up how bad i feel so that my kids and neighbours dont see how bad i really am, im scared of breaking down out in public that i dread going out some days.

What actual help do you want? If you can identify specific help then you can make a request. So if you are struggling with caring for your dd and think she is being affected you can stress those points and ask for help with parenting. If you do not think you have a correct diagnosis or medication you can request a psychiatric referral ( if this is not that) and medication review. If you want some cbt then you could say I think this would help because I struggle with xyz.

If you just go in saying I want help but do not know what you need to help you then you may feel you have not got it if that makes sense?

Good luck with the appointment.

i was refused cbt because i have access team appointment and was told i cant have both services??

i dont know whats wrong so dont know what to ask for? gp refered me to the access team and then they will tell me what psych etc i need to see. right?

im ok with my dc's theykeep me on the straight and narrow, wouldnt be here if i didnt have them to keep going! the only thing that upsets me regarding the dc's is that they live with sadness and boredom, dont see family have one friend (play with neighbours kids when outside) but thats it. no holidays or days out cos i cant face it. :-( feel sorry for them.

Hi, yes the counselling and cbt services that people access are through the gp. If you are under a different service such as the one you have been referred to ( here there are the early intervention teams, pathfinder or CMHT teams so all different names) then you cannot be receiving treatment from 2 different services at the same time. ( as an aside it can be frustrating as when I was under the CMHT I got a nurse to see me who had no cbt skills etc but could not access cbt as under the CMHT etc as my team had no one trained in it then, grrr!!)

You can request perhaps:
A psychiatric referral and diagnosis
A carer's assessment if you have a partner ( this should be offered but is not always!)
A medication review
A treatment plan and whatever treatment you think will help such as cbt etc.
can you write down what you struggle with and what you need to help you with those struggles. S if struggling to bond with a new baby help from children's service ( massage course, reassurance, parenting classes, baby first aid) etc.

Sorry I gave the example of struggling with young baby as that was my issue and help I got. Not saying it is your struggle!!

thats ok, i word things wrong.

ive done 5 parenting courses/classes - one being the webster stratton that was 12wks long! aswell as an assertiveness course (power course) ... and homestart!

feeling a bit like a lost cause?
ive struggled with life all my life, ive found it really hard to do normal things people find so easy. ive always been a recluse. as a child id prefer to sit in my room on my own all day, found it hard to make and maintain friendships. felt uncomfortable in social spaces/places.

even as a child i told my mum i dont feel right, just dont know whats wrong :-(

So would you like some help to be able to do more things socially? Some CMHT teams have occupational therapists for people with mental health teams attached, they can be very helpful and might be something to consider for you?

i dont know if i could cope socially. thanks for taking time to read my post, just talking helps a little .