I give up. Of course I can't but I really can't do this any more

[MissStrawberry]

My 12 year old has been a little shit all day. I am being awful with my language because I am at breaking point and have lost any kind of control over him. He hasn't done a single thing I have asked him too all day and has been taking the piss out of me all day. He has been mean to his siblings, has scratched one of them, shut the cat in his room according to DS2 and I just don't know what to do any more. I feel like crying. I feel like walking out. I know I am fucking up and I just can't live like this any more. Tablets will not help so please don't suggest that. I just feel this is possibly a safer place to vent to be honest as no one can help.

Just asked him how he felt about the way he has behaved today and he said it was unacceptable. He said he was angry.

So, since I am meant to be the adult and he is a child and I have clearly reacted all wrong to him all day as I had no idea he was angry what should I have done?

I told him he should have said to us he felt angry and wanted some time alone and we would have respected that but he started arguing with me so I said to go and find something to do.

If I were you, I would repost this in the teenager section. I know your son is 12, but I think they will understand all this, all too well.