Urgent help needed

[brucewillisiaint]

Hello. I hope you can help. I am looking for some advice. My DD mum is suffering from anxiety and last night went to the out of hours doctors and has been prescribed diazepam to help her cope. There is a long running back story to this which is too difficult to go into.

The doctor has told her that she needs help to look after our 8 month old DD.

We do not live together and broke up during the pregnancy because of mutual emotional abuse.

The visit to the doctors was brought on because of a massive argument that once started neither of us seemed to able to stop.

Although I know this sounds selfish, but I need to go to work tomorrow. Our support network is virtually non existent. I don't have parents and her parents live over 100 miles away and wouldn't help anyway. Because if this fact, she has asked me to respect her wishes and not call them.

So the question is, how do I go to work and ensure that both ex partner and DD are cared for and safe?

Thanks for reading

Do you have parental/emergency leave you can take?
Or a days unpaid leave to sort out plans for the next week?
Your priority should be your child's wellbeing and if your xdp is not able to look after her then you need to assume your parental responsibilities and take time off work.
Alternatively do you have any mutual friends that could spend the day with them?

Does your dd mum have family? If she is not classed by the gp as being safe to care for her dd then have you considered a short term nursery placement or childminder. Do you have family that can help? Can she talk to her HV for advice. Failing that you can self refer to social care to see if funding or support is available if your dd is at risk they will assess.

Just thinking more long term. Do you have homestart or similar nearby, or a children's centre as they could help with practical or emotional support.

Oh yes your ex could have a home start volunteer, which her HV van refer her to and if she is open with her HV then perhaps be given a support worker from the children's centre. Could she phone them tomorrow, or could you make a joint appointment to see HV for support?

Thank you for your comments and advice.