Hitting myself

[IsThisSeriousOrNot]

Name changed just because this is a bit personal.

Recently in the last six months or so, I've been hitting myself or pulling my hair or scratching at my face. I only do this when I'm really angry or frustrated and usually in the middle of an argument with DP, occasionally when I'm on my own and I get rally stressed out. I can't stop myself. I just do it to release all the frustration I think.

My DP looks at me like I'm losing it and thinks that it's serious Mh issues. I thought maybe it was just because I am pretty sleep deprived at the moment with a badly-sleeping LO but DP thinks I should go to GP.

Won't I just be wasting GPs time though? I didn't think this was real self-harm and I don't want to pay disrespect to people who have real problems by making myself out to be suffering? I don't think I can make myself clear, it's hard to explain sorry

No expert, but I think it IS self-harm. I used to do this when frustrated, no longer feel the urge since taking ADs.

You are angry and frustrated and sleep-deprived. You ARE suffering. Something needs to change here, whether it's your life situation or your way of coping with it. You will not be wasting anyone's time if you seek help, for yourself, not because DH thinks you should.

I think I would be a bit scared to go to GP if I'm being honest. Worried that the GP would think I'm a bit of a piss-taker. Don't know if I could get the words out.

I know I need more sleep but it isn't going to happen so I've got to try and stop this then

Hi if sleep deprivation is causing this and stress such as arguments could you focus on how to get more sleep? Such as a lie in, dp doing more, having a relative do childcare for an afternoon so you can sleeps etc? I got to rock bottom sleep wise and was told by mental health services that I had to take responsibility for my welfare and sleep was part of it and to get more of it and to work out how! I said I could not but after some negotiation dp now does some nights, we take it in turns to have a lie in at weekends and if I need to do will take my dc out for a few hours at weekend for some much needed me time.

I've just come on here to ask the exact same question. In the past 2 weeks I've started to hit myself on the head and pull my hair when I'm really angry/upset. I hit myself with my house phone the other day and now have a huge painful bruise on my head. Every time I feel it (washing my hair etc) I feel physically sick at what I'm doing to myself.

Are you sleep deprived too ThisIsMyUsername? What do you think is the reason behind yours?

I do need to try and get more sleep/me-time but my DP gets quite defensive if I suggest that and it leads to more arguments and frustration

I do this, recently gave myself a black eye and scratches over my face. This is along with many others things, recently panic attacks, feeling so sad today I am feeling empty, nothing.. Tried explaining to dh and he started going on about he feels

Sorry to hear that topknob. I have myself scratches down my face too. I understand about the empty feeling.

I don't feel like I could talk to DP for the same reason that he then makes it about him, asking why I aren't happy with him and then he acts all down and sad so I end up trying to cheer him up or I just get more annoyed...

Mine is due to depression.

Ah sorry ThisIsMyUserName I didn't mean to come across as insensitive.

I've done this before and have been considering it.... Mine is due to depression and stress.

I hate it but its a compulsion I can barely control.

Has anyone told their GP about it?

I told my gp when I first started, he was brilliant with me. He said its more common than you think and is often not dealt with and leads to other self harm and that's when a diagnosis takes place iyswim.

I had to stop myself last night as my youngest refused to go to sleep, take a bottle or do anything that wasn't screaming or playing. It was a long long night. It was tough not to at least scratch but I've got a scan coming up soon and I can't risk them seeing marks.

I have been doing this too, mainly when I can't get DS to sleep. I don't know what else to do with the frustration. I'm also hair-pulling and scratching lately too

I have an appointment with a GP but not until 30th August.

I did this the other day because of a massive setback at work. I failed an exam, soon when this happens again it is game over and I will lose a job I worked really hard to get and a job I love with all my heart. But I can't pass the exam to stay in the job.

My head hurts, I bashed it several times and pulled my hair in frustration. Keep bursting into tears all day long, it will get embarrassing if I lose it in front of my customers, bound to happen, tonight I have poisoned myself with alcohol although this is really out of character. I'm sick of listening to all the self hatred in my own head.

Sorry for your hassles. I used to cut my arms up as a teenager, covered in scars and don't want to do this again. Sometimes I think of suicide but I have a family. If I lost my job, I suppose I could get another job.