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Mental health

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Feeling awful

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YoniRanger · 08/08/2013 11:00

Hi all, I had a massively traumatic birth with DD 2 years ago. We are currently suing the hospital for negligence and as part of this process I had a psychological assessment which seems to have brought it all back up.

I am having nightmares, feel anxious and sad and I occasionally relive bit of it. If anyone asks me how I am I get a bit teary.

It's not helped by the fact that everyone I know is pregnant. I had to apologise to a group of them because I talked about my birth without even thinking that they could probably live without that right now

I am coping though, everything is getting done and I can still have fun with DH and DD.

Should I just wait it out? Or might I get worse?

Thanks for reading!

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littlemonkeychops · 08/08/2013 11:49

Hi Yoni

No experience myself, but did you have any counselling after the birth? If so maybe you could ask to be referred again? If you didn't maybe your feelings at the moment show that you haven't really come to terms with it and some counselling to help you do so might be a good idea? If you were talking about it with the other mums that suggests you do want to talk about it so maybe a professional could help you.

HoopHopes · 08/08/2013 20:32

Perhaps when you have sued the hospital you could use the money for some good private counselling as it might help if it was outside the NHS as it were. I had a big issue with something NHS related and fund that to help

NanaNina · 11/08/2013 14:37

I don't like people making diagnoses on the internet and I am no medic, but it really does sound like your have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) which is a recognised mental illness. Having "flashbacks" and nightmare are definitely symptoms of PTSD. There is a very good therapy available for this (EMDR) you will have to google it. Many MNs with PTSD have recommended it. Apparently you don't have to go all through and "re-live" the experience like you do in psycho dynamic therapy.

As you are coping and able to have fun with DH and DD you may well have PTSD in a very mild form. However I think it's best that you look into therapy as sometimes these things sort of "follow" people along their life span, and arise at times of stress.

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