feeling lost

[mindy2013]

hi guys, am new to mumsnet.

I am wanting to make new friends and find people who understand where I am coming from. I've always been a shy person, when I was very young I was confident and sociable, but after I hit my teens it all went downhill, I am very shy and find it difficult to talk to people in social situations, even at work in an office, I find it hard to strike up conversations with my colleagues and am feeling really self conscious. over the years been to the docs when I've had my really depressive moments but no help was forthcoming.

I met my husband over the net and we've now been married for 3 years and been together for 9 years, we've been trying for a baby for 3 years to no avail, am now on clomid which doesn't seem to be working. I guess I am just feeling so frustrated with life, I try to make friends and help up not being able to get my words out and looking stupid cos i'm anxious. I feel like a failure as a woman cos I can't give my husband a baby and feel like i'm running out of time to have a family which I really want. I don't have many friends and am losing touch with everyone and am feeling desperately lonely. - sorry I've bummed you all out lol, I just thought coming on this site would enable me to make some new friends and maybe help with my anxiety problems x

Hello. It is so hard not being able to have a child when one wants, but try not to feel a failure for that if you can. 1 in 7 couples struggle with infertility so it is more normal than one thinks. I was married over ten years and took 7-8 to have my child. I guess they have done all fertility tests, semen analysis adm blood tests? I do not understand why clomid is used by dr's unless there is a medical diagnosis for it.

It can be hard to make friends when naturally shy and working full time as it does not leave much time. I eventually joined a yoga class and have got to know a few people to chat to there, not friends but it is a start. Is there something you could do or join to help that you may like.

hi, yeah I have had all the blood tests, an operation and husband had the semen test done - all normal, so frustrating when everyone else you know seems to get pregnant straight away. doesn't help that our families are constantly asking us if there's any news on the baby they all want to be grandparents really badly.

I am trying to be social with people from work but finding it hard, I work 20 miles from home so it's hard to get out and about after work. I've been looking into local groups to join but feeling really anxious about joining x my last job I was at for 6 years and it took me that long to get to know everyone well and open up, I still have a few friends from my old job who I text and meet up with which is nice x

It is very frustrating. At least they have started you on assisted fertility, which is in itself another journey.

It is hard when do not live near work, I had a 75 commute for years too which did bit not help hence my yoga group each week.

Perhaps find one group to join and try it?