Sorry for another thread....anyone have experience of a therapist/psychologist getting pregnant?

[martha2013]

I currently have a thread entitled mother and baby and have received some fabulous advice and support on there but as the title suggests I am hoping for someone to have advice on a different experience.

In summary from my other thread, I have bipolar and bpd and have had many severe episodes and admissions in the last ten years. Two months ago I gave birth to my second very much wanted and planned baby. I was stable unto about 7 months pregnant and since then it has been touch and go as to whether I go into a mother and baby unit. I have resisted meds as I am breastfeeding.

Prior to giving birth I was having weekly sessions with a psychologist and have been for perhaps 3 years. She is fantastic. My cpn suggested that although practically difficult it might be good to re start therapy as things are chaotic. So after a lot of thought and reservations due to anxiety around my daughter I turned up for a session today, baby with me. Therapist announced she is pregnant. I cried uncontrollably for an hour.

I have no explanation why this is affecting me so much but I am devastated. It is not just that she won't be available in3 months time - it feels so upsetting beyond that I am losing her. I don't know how to cope with this. I also can't believe my cpn didn't tell me.

I was already having strong suicidal urges this week and this just feels too much. Does anyone have any experience of a therapist ending work together due to pregnancy?

Not the same as you but I have waited years for help. Finally get a psychologist and several months into seeing her she tells me she has a new job and I have three sessions left. She leaves, me distraught and end of NHS psychology for me ( 3 yrs would be a dream of the impossible where I live!!). Here support is very time limited and if a person does not make progress and is said to need lengthy help then they say it can't be working and withdraw it!! S where you are sounds very different and I am sure you will get lots of support and help dealing with this distress. Bpd is a disorder where people struggle to manage endings so it is good you have 3 months notice ( not 3 weeks!!) so why not use that time to work on this issue and see if you can have more long term therapy with a new worker or see her if she returns from maternity leave??

I think your distress is normal with your diagnosis as I did exactly the same and did not have a long or good therapeutic relationship.

My psychologist who I had been seeing for over 3 years suddenly went off sick last September, I wasn't told how long she was going to off for and really struggled.
In April I was told that I was getting transferred to another pyschogist which has been really hard.
My previous psychologist saw me weekly for ip yo 1.5hrs my new one sees me fortnightly for 1 hour, I realise how lucky I was with my previous Pyscologist and the new one is ok I'm really struggling with the change over and the different ways people work.
My only advice would be is to keep an open mind, try not to compare the 2( not an easy thing to do) if your struggling with things tell her, be honest as that's the only way I think you will see the benefit.