I would be interested to hear from anyone who has experience of anxiety, my anxiety basically started when my sister lost her husband, i started experiencing chronic anxiety and worrying that I was going to have her in my life more than I wanted and I was going to have to look after her when she was ill etc. (she's always moaning about her health problems). She has a toxic personality, moaning, miserable, negative, rude, homophobic, racist, (although she has one or two good points) Sounds mad to a lot of people. Struggling lots with anxiety. Cut contact at end of April,(after a period of on and off contact), didn't feel too bad, felt I was getting better, then she sent gifts for my daughters birthday which made me feel SOOOO bad with a card saying how much she missed her - does anyone think this is manipulative? I don't think she means to be the way she is, she's just like that and whenever I have challenged her, she says well thats just the way i am and i won't change, and this anxiety you have is not my fault and she doesn't accept any responsibility for it. I am struggling a lot with obsessive thoughts about this person (which is a trait of anxiety) and struggling with accepting anxiety, my decision, the future (how am I going to live with my decision) - everything. I don't want her in my life and need to achieve the peace that others talk about on here. I felt I had to cut contact to prevent future anxiety but it's hard, I think based upon my upbringing that family always have to be there for each other. Would really like some help from people who have gone through anxiety based on toxic people. She doesn't actually make me feel that anxious when i am with her, I just dreaded her visiting, future problems, felt like all the moans and groans were going to be there for ever and don't at all enjoy her company, so I don't want to go back to it. However, all the anxiety says about facing your demons to recover, but others say keep away from stressful situations and negative people. Help anyone ? Thanks. x