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Feeling cr*p today. Anyone else out there the same?

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BlueToday · 07/06/2006 15:22

I've been having a few negative days recently, I think my period's due soon. I keep blowing up at the slightest thing and it's really affecting the kids and DH. I also keep feeling really emotional (I cried after Sam got bullied on BB the other night - that's how ridiculous things have got!!) and low about the world in general. Earlier I was reading a magazine which had terrible photos of people affected by masacres in Burma... then over the page there was an article about the footballer's wives and their pre-match preparations. It all seemed so trivial yet I couldn't help but feel envious of their easy lives with nannies, money and glamourous parties. I must be really shallow!

My DDs are beautiful and I know I'm so lucky to have them, especially after reading terrible stories about real people being affected by terrible things but I also feel so tired and downtrodden by my plodding existance! When I feel low about my life I tell myself not to be so stupid and self-pitying and I then feel so guilty!

I just feel like I need a break! DDs are 7 mths and 2 and so demanding. DD1 has regular tantrums and dd2 is teething and SOOOO miserable it's impossible to get anything done! Yesterday I abandoned my trolley halfway through a supermarket shop because I couldn't cope with the constant pestering, screaming and looks from other customers!

Sorry to go on, just HAD to rant! I'm normally really positive and my morale is generally quite high, it's just sometimes I can get really low and I let petty things that have happened in the past get to me. I've become incognito here as I'm a regular poster that just wants to let off steam anonymously! Does anybody else have days when they feel the world just ain't fair? How do you cope with it?

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Notquitesotiredmum · 08/06/2006 10:13

Hi BT

Just wanted to post as I was exactly where you are, last week. This week the cloud seems to have lifted enormously. It can be hormones that bring it on, or with me, lack of sleep is a trigger. But you are not on your own feeling like this: two children under two is an enormous drain on your emotions and energy. They are programmed to take and take and take. It's how they thrive. (I remember reading somewhere that they are also programmed not to take so much from you that they drive you over the edge, but then there will be other demands on you apart from your kids too, and sometimes ordinary life as a mum of little ones can be totally, totally exhausting.) You certainly aren't alone in feeling as you do - particularly when one of them is teething. Why did God invent teeth that take so long to arrive, and cause sooo much discomfort on the way?!! One of life's great mysteries.

Be kind to yourself. Find some 'me' time, whether it is a long soak in the bath when they are asleep or whether it is getting someone to look after them so that you can shop/go for a power walk/eat chocolate . . . whatever is your treat. (And do get an early night too. Nine or ten hours sleep is probably a luxury you don't often get. Even if you have to go at 8pm to do it!) You are not being shallow. You are just identifying that you need some treats, you need to be nurtured, before you have the energy to nurture others. And don't just treat yourself once. Try to organise that time to do it once a week, at least, if you can.

Well done you for abandoning that trolley. Shopping can wait and they won't starve! If you can't cope with the shopping and the winging once in a while then don't! The world will carry on and you will find the strength to do it another day - or when they are in bed, or via the internet.

Hoping that your cloud lifts soon. It will, y'know.

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