Dh has been suffering with several health (physical pain) problems over the last few years but the most recent one has also affected his mental state & I don't know what to do to help him. He's in a terrible state.
He's been waiting for weeks & weeks for an appt to treat his physical pain, only to find it cannot be treated as he hasn't had a scan which will now take more time to arrange. This latest news has really tipped him over the edge.
He has become more & more withdrawn. He is taking maximum doses of v strong painkillers which have turned him into a zombie. He spends every evening in a coma on the settee but then can't sleep at night & is waking at 4/5am and just going off to work. He is nasty to me all the time, not physically abusive but emotionally - he hasn't had a nice word to say to me for months. He still manages to be mostly pleasant to the kids but takes it all out on me.
He refuses to acknowledge that he is depressed. I am on the verge of leaving him (if I had somewhere to go) but worry that that would be the final straw & he'd do something silly.
Can I go to the gp on his behalf to try & get an urgent referral (somewhere?) Can I ask them to contact him or will he have to go himself. I know I'll struggle to get him to admit to having mental difficulties. I don't know what to do. Can anyone help? I'm desperate.