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Wife gone mad

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setarcos · 08/07/2013 07:01

Hello,

We have 2 kids. One is 2.5years and the baby is 3months.

During her pregnancy with the first child she showed serious signs of serious mood swings. She would shout at me a lot. She even smashed my phone.

I let it go and put it down to mood swings. Thinking it will pass very soon. This was 3 years ago.

Mood swings continued. They are quite agressive and it is as if she has lots of pent up anger for me. I do not know why.

I have asked her very occasional during mood swing and after - 'why are you anger with me' - and she denies every losing it and getting angery. She even denies having mood swings.

It is quite bad even last night I slept in the other room she went crazy to the point I actually fear for my safety (a little bit).

She has been getting these mood swings for three years now. We have had 2 kids in that time. She is breast feeding. And she says she is very very tired. Which I think is possible the cause of it due to most, if not all, mood swings being at night time.

She shows very little sign of affection for me. Hardly ever. She puts this down to being tired. Which she is.

98% of the time she is extremely nice. And 100% she is nice to other people. But only with me she completely loses it and goes crazy.

She seems very very stressed some times. But she is always very happy with other people and the babies.

She is either extremely tired or she has severe mood swings. Or possibly which I have been thinking for a while now is that she has some mental health thing - but I am not sure what and I am not sure what to do.

Can any one in this forum please help or advise me what to do with this, because it can not really go on for much longer.

Thank you very much for your time and help.

S

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ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 08/07/2013 07:25

If she can control herself with other people then she could control herself with you if she chose to. A mental health issue would not be so specific, would it?

Do you do your fair share with the children? Does she get enough rest?

She's telling you she's exhausted. What are you doing to help her with that?

EDMNWiganSalfordandBlackpool · 08/07/2013 07:31

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Tee2072 · 08/07/2013 08:40

I've asked MNHQ to move this to a topic where you'll get more answers.

I agree that she sounds either depressed or just exhausted.

AnnieLobeseder · 08/07/2013 08:48

Well, your thread title hardly shows much empathy on your part for your wife. "Gone mad"? "Some mental health thing"? Really? That's just nasty on many levels.

If your wife is truly suffering from mental health issues after the birth of your children, of course you are right to be concerned. Gentle suggestions that she visit her GP are a good place to start.

However, you say this all seems to stem from exhaustion. As others have asked, what are you doing to alleviate that?

I'm sure you really are concerned about your wife, but the tone of your post comes across very poorly to me - it's all about how this is affecting you, not about you being genuinely concerned for her well-being.

yamsareyammy · 08/07/2013 12:33

The op came on MN becuse he is concerned about her.

If she will not see a GP herself, you are able to go to a GP and discuss it.

Agreed that your title of the thread is not ideal. Perhaps you could ask MN to change it.

Hecsy, I suspect that the real Mrs setarcos is coming out to him
I think we all tend to show the real us to our nearest and dearest.

Unfortunatelyanxious · 10/07/2013 19:10

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