Anxieties and now can't sleep :/

[MeAndMyLittleMan]

Hiya,

I have social anxieties along with other weird things about myself that I cannot seem to understand. I have been sleeping on my sofa for the past 3 months because of the people upstairs, and of course I cannot talk to them. This evening they were playing loud music above my living room, so I decided to try and sleep in my bedroom which is just under their usual middle of the night activity room for some reason lol but this time they are being good, but I cannot sleep and I can hear things like scratching. I think this is because a few months ago we had mice but we dealt with them. I cannot get to sleep without the tv on anymore and I'm freaking out because I'm just tired and I have to get up for my son in the morning, and I'm wondering if the people upstairs are going to decided to make a horendous amount of noise again around 5 haha I have tried going to sleep in my room before and the next night coming up to my bed time I have become scared and started to feel sick, I am hopeless I have decided and am going to kick off shit to someone who means a lot to me even though its not their fault! What should I do?

Hi sorry to hear you are going through a bad patch at the moment.i suffer from anxiety as well ,have you been to the doctor .They might give you something to calm you down .i am on citralopram and it is a godsend .As for the neighbours i also live in a downstairs flat and when im feeling really anxious the noise always seems worse than it actually is so try and relax and go see your doc .hope you feel better .

Hiya, yeah I have been to the doctors before and I have been on citalopram and escitalopram and I always forgot to take them :s I have a terrible memory and I always felt like I was just on autopilot. But that was a couple of years ago and now I'm scared to go to the doctors and the dentist which is annoying. I have been thinking I need something like anxiety medications but they are tranquilisers and as I live on my own with my son I wouldn't be able to take them without worrying even more. I'm just going round circles and its impossible to get out of the situation. I just give up half the time and I think I'm becoming a bad mum because I'm always cranky and aggitated :(

You could ask the doc to put you on propananol if its suitable for you its a beta blocker it has a calming effect without making you sleepy. Iknow how you feel i am also a single parent with 2 dds of 6 and 4 and its very hard sometimes but you will get through these rough times .funny you should mention the dentist ihave cancelled 3 appts in the last week as i hate going but i have appt thursday and i am going to force myself to go i need 5 fillings arrggh .

It is really annoying because I haven't been to the dentist in years and I hate the feeling of metal against my teeth :/ and I have been avaoiding them and the doctors at all costs, to be honest I'm surprised I haven't become agoraphobic again. I am just frustrated about not being able to sleep because that's the only thing I was ever good at lol and I seem to fall asleep fine when I'm not supposed to I.e. When my son is awake, and then it doesn't make a difference how much noise anyone makes, its just at night and I'm fed up and angry with myself at being such an idiot :/

You are not being an idiot.Mental health problems can happen to anyone .I am so suprised at the similar things we have been through .I got put on citralopram for agoraphobia,it is the most isolating debilitating frustrating illness ever and im glad to hear you are free from that at the moment .I ordered lots and lots of agorophobic books from amazon (second hand ,of course)and found them really good,anyone as for sleeping i think the more you try to sleeptheharder it is and when you dont think about it so much it justhappens although if you have some ocd traits like me it will be all you can think about at that time .i got 5 hours last nite so that should be enough to deal with my tantrum prone 4year old today lol hope you feel bit better today

Hiya, I haven't completely over come my agoraphobia, it helps that I'm only at college so I can have a week off without the world ending lol I couldn't go outside without my boyfriend and my son for 4 years and I guess I just got fed up of being a complete nobody. I do have ocd traits mostly writing things over and over again in my head and/or scratching my arms :/ I managed around 5 hours myself last night so wasn't bad when my 4yr old was stamping and screaming lol Its really frustrating when I can't sleep because I know I will fall asleep during the day and I feel like a terrible mum put that with not being able to go outside without some sort of notice and plan me and my son are going mad. I really don't know what's gonna happen when the summer holidays come :/

Hi if you need to sleep during the day sometimes can your little one not have a rest with you and maybe watch his favourite dvd that should keep him occupied for a little while .As for the days you cant face going out( i have plenty of these) have u not got a little garden you can sit in while your son plays in it.i have a shared garden but its quite big the girls love it .

Yeah he has quiet time and he's actually quite good, but I still feel useless. No, but there is a park down the road but its still too far for me to feel comfortable in and my son always drags me along to play with him, which is nice but its just tiring especially when I haven't had much sleep :/

Hi how are you feeling hav you been getting more sleep lately

Oh bless you, this sounds exhausting for you. You are not an idiot!

Please dont be afraid to go back to the doctors, asked to be referred for counselling. Citalopram is not a tranquiliser and shouldn't make you feel drowsy, if that doesn't suit you there will be other meds you can try. Nothing is more tiring than anxiety.