We both have 15 month olds.
We were chatting about how things are now we are both back at work and children in nursery. I?ll try and be brief about what she told me but will try not to dripfeed..
She said she has been feeling a bit miserable for a while- not devastation, can?t get out of bed misery, but medium level, daily grind misery;
Has been fighting with her DH loads, (she said she is generally intolerant of him and while they appear to have the ups and downs like most relationships, she seems unable to stand being in the same room as him one minute, but will feel like she loves him the next;
spending money she doesn't have on things she doesn't need;
Exhaustion;
A feeling of wanting to grab her DS and run away;
Intolerant of PILs for no apparent reason. (She said ?they piss me off just by occupying my sofa?.)
I asked her if the problems stemmed from her relationship but she said honestly, her DP is fine. He?s not the most housetrained (her words) and he can be insensitive but overall, he?ll give her a lift to the station (out of his way) in the mornings and apart from getting p1ssed once a week, is a pretty hands on father. He also works full time to her part time.
She doesn't think she is depressed. She said it?s just life. But I had PND (and not yet fully recovered) and some things she said ring a bell with me.
I said I?d ask MN what they think and I will show her this thread. Obviously I think she needs to speak to GP/Health visitor as a first step but we are wondering if anyone here can offer some advice first.
Thanks.