Feeling utterly worn down by family illness...don't know what to do...if anything...

[Badvoc]

Since nov last year things have been really tough.
I have 2 young dc and my ds2 (4) was really poorly all winter with what turns out to be asthma (dx last month)
Ds1 also had a bad winter (he is asthmatic too) and they both missed a lot of school and pre school.
Added to this my parents are getting more frail and my mum was rushed into hospital twice in December.
Added to that all the appts and dr appts I have had to take them all to, it's basically meant that near every week since nov I have had to be at the dr or a the hospital.
Mum had a femoral bypass surgery on feb and then my dad got ill.
He is currently undergoing investigations for swallowing difficulties...in fact he is back today for a barium meal.
I have also been ill a few times and was rushed to hospital myself 2 weeks ago with AF. This meant beta blockers and warfarin.
I am also awaiting further tests.
Then, my youngest has been ill/not right since Saturday and yesterday on weds went really downhill so ended up in a and e and he spent the night in hospital on a drip
We are home now, but I am just exhausted. Ds2 is still not well, obv, although better than he was.
It's my Dhs b day tomorrow and ds1s on Thursday...and I just feel totally unable to cope with what I need to do.
Dh is nit great at times like this. He went back to work yesterday even though he knew we were due to be discharged, so my dad had to come and get us, and then I had no feint sore key...he just doesn't think and I am pretty sick of it tbh.
I spent a lot of time at the this hospital with ds1 when he was born and I hate the place...hate it. I think I may have some of PTSD from my experiences with ds1 and he knows this.
I have got ds1 off to school this morning, have sorted some washing and put another load on, given ds2 his meds, but am sat here looking at a basket of washing waiting to go on the line, and feel completely unable to do it.
Don't really know why I am posting, other than reassurance it will get better?
I am posting this in MH too as I feel so worn down with it all.
Thanks for reading if you got this far.

wow,that is so so much to cope with, no wonder you are completely exhasted, physically and mentally I would have thought.

I had a time like this once, only the once, and nowhere near as bad as yours.
I had to call in reinforcements.
My sister came and stayed with us for a while, as so many of us were ill.
What we had was catching as well, but she stayed, didnt catch it, and helped us all through.
I couldnt go and see one of them in hospital, which was perhaps the worst thing.

So partly what I am trying to say, is , is there anyone, anyone at all that can lend you a hand?

DH. Did he have to go to work. Preumably he may have had a lot of days off recently?

Sorry, dont know what AF is,and no idea what you mean by feint sore key.

Front door key!